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writes:there is this Guy we hung out a few times. The first time we hung out he would say things like he has never dated a girl of my ethnicity but he would if it was me because I'm cute. He was flirting with me the whole night. and the next day at school he talked to me and then he ignored me for like a week.after that week he called me asking me to hang out and he tried cuddling with me but I was with my friend and she wanted tot alk to me so i told him no. He said he could see us being close like best friends and stuff but after that he never talked to me again. I asked him if we were cool he said yea, and I had heard from other friends that he said Im feeling him and all this stuff and he told my cousin that we were friends and he smiled and got shy when he told her that.about a month passed we didnt talk and i hung out with him. He kept touching my butt and i kept pushing him away he sat by me and he said can i be honest ive been feeling you ever since that day we hung out and i told him he never tried talking to me and he said cause he lost my number. Well the next day we all went to the movies all my friends and he was there and he asked me to sit by him but i couldnt. so i went to the bathroom and when i came out he was there waiting and he was commenting on my clothes or whatever and my body ( which he does everytime we hang out). He keeps asking me to sleep wwith him then he says jp cause he knows im not like that and he brings up my past relationships everytime we are alone. The thing is I know hes a player and i kind of do like him. He holds my hand and like rubs my chin and lays on me all the time and he does things for me even when he doesn't want to but when other people ask him he wont do it.Well time has passed since all that happened, the new year started and me and him had became close. Everyday at the end of the school day, we would walk together to the front of the school, and he would always tell me how i look nice, smell nice, or comment on my body.. he would flirt with me like always...then i moved schools and we stopped getting in touch, after about a few weeks he moved to that school too... I had him in allot of my classes. It was small private school so it had total of maybe 15 to 20 high schoolers there..we sat across from each other at lunch and there would be times were i caught him looking at me. My friend moved to my school around the same time he did, and i had classes with her as well and she would turn to me and say I just caught JA looking at you, so i turned around and he tried to turn his head really quickly...well He would ask me how my day was going and what i've been up too and everything then (our school has to sections, once you reach a certain point on central side then you move to the other side called the academy) well i moved to the academy side full time. people on central side has one class on the academy side.. in that class period he would flirt with me, stare at me and talk about me to his friends. i know because his friends told me. Anyway after that his grandfather died and my friends said he wants you to text him. I texted him to check on him and he told me he will be okay and to start texting him more..from that point he would text me all the time saying he has feelings for me, and that he kind of likes me whatever that means..he said he used to like me and now he kind of likes me, and i said what changed and he said nothing we just didn't talk as much.. well one of the benefits about going to the academy is that you can leave whenever you want, so i left early to go to the gas station and school let out and he was walking with someone and he saw me and he waved and smile, and he even blew me a kiss.. but some people started telling me that he has a gf and all this stuff that he just wants to have sex with you, and the people that are telling me this is his family.. one of them don't like me and so i felt like she was telling me this because she didn't like me and didn't want me with her family. and then his other family member told me that he did like me and that i am the only girls hes ever really talked about but he did say he wanted to have sex with me... and after all was said in done, he told me he wanted to be together, he would even sneak out the of other side of the school just to see what i been up to and ask why i haven't been texting him so much... well after that happened i heard he was saying some stuff like he doesn't even really like me anymore he just wants sex, but the person that said that was his family who doesn't like me, so i got angry and told him to stop talking to me...My friend told me that he said he really liked me and all this stuff but i texted him trying to apologize and he said to stop texting him so i did.... Do you think he was just using me for sex? did he truly like me? my friends said that all he basically said was that i was crazy about him..but according to his cousin he said a whole lot more... Idk what to believe.. did i blow it? can i have some thoughts and opinions on this situation.. preferably more than one, sorry its so long i just wanted to give you all details so you could give me insight on the situation. please and thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes I do mean that if I called him, he would drop whatever he was doing to help me, and when he was done, he would just kiss me on the cheek, and leave.
But yes I undunderstand, we met before but not under good circumstances, but after that he acted this way towards me, I know he was a player and used girls, its just hard to see when you like someone but your right, he just wants sex...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2013):
 I read this “after that week he called me asking me to hang out and he tried cuddling with me but I was with my friend and she wanted tot alk to me so i told him no. He said he could see us being close like best friends and stuff but after that he never talked to me again.”
And I knew…. He’s only after sex honey…
I haven’t even read the rest…
The rest of the story:
You said: “about a month passed we didnt talk and i hung out with him. He kept touching my butt”
RUDE, inconsiderate, and again about SEX NOT you but anyone… clearly
OP said: “he said can i be honest ive been feeling you ever since that day we hung out and i told him he never tried talking to me and he said cause he lost my number.”
Seriously… no email no mutual friends.. no way to find you at school or on facebook…. LIES.. he’s LYING. It’s all about SEX… because a boy that WANTS to be WITH YOU… would find a way to find you.
OP then adds: “he was commenting on my clothes or whatever and my body ( which he does everytime we hang out). He keeps asking me to sleep wwith him”
MORE pressure to put out for this loser… DO YOU SEE IT YET???
OP then said “He holds my hand and like rubs my chin and lays on me all the time and he does things for me even when he doesn't want to but when other people ask him he wont do it.”
Here come your rationalizations… you like him and you want more with him and he only wants sex… so you convince yourself that holding your hand or rubbing your chin or laying on you all the time is a good thing… NOPE it’s about sex.
You say he does thins for you when he doesn’t want… like what? And like when? I mean if you called him and said “I need you to do such and such now” do you think he would drop what he is doing and jump at your request… and when he was done what would he do? He’d come over and lay on you and rub your butt and ask you for sex….
OP said “Everyday at the end of the school day, we would walk together to the front of the school, and he would always tell me how i look nice, smell nice, or comment on my body.”
What about your brain, or you likes or dislikes.. why is it always about your body with him? I know the answer… because it’s ABOUT SEX! And yes I am hammering this into your head. I do not mind just sexual relationships for adults but NOT for teens and NEVER when one partner wants more than the other.
I will promise you when you finally meet a young man that cares about YOU as a person you won’t’ even have to ask if it’s just about sex… you will know.
You didn’t blow anything with this guy as there was nothing to blow. A guy that is interested in you will contact you, will find you, will ask you to do things.. and will NOT ask for sex or touch you in an inappropriate way.
NEVER let anyone touch you sexually… boobs, butt etc… until you are ready. AND never ever think that sex will snare a man. It won’t.
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reader, Carry On Dick  +, writes (1 February 2013):
 A typical player. The best thing you can do is keep people like this as far away from you as possible. You are young, your chance for true happiness in life will come.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (1 February 2013):
Seems pretty obvious that he just wanted sex.
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