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writes:ive been dating this guy (his 26) for about a 4 weeks now, but we have only seen each other a few times, last time i went to his house and we slept with each other, it was my 1st time (im 21) and it was ok and it felt right at the time.he seems like a really nice guy but seems to want to move this relationship on really fast, what should i do?by sleeping with him have i lead him on?p.s. i told him i was a virgin during Reply to this Question
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reader, help_me91  +, writes (6 November 2007):
Trust me if he doesnt understand that you want to take the relationshhip a little bit slower he isnt worth your time. Because you want to take it slow just means that your looking for a long relationship. Something that could last for a while. Or forever. So talk to him if he cares at all he will slow down just keep your head up high...
Yours Truly,
help_me91
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 November 2007):
 Tell him that you're feeling a little rushed and that you want to take things a little slower. If he is really a nice guy and the right guy for you, he'll respect your wishes and not make you feel pressured to go any faster than you want to.
Don't compromise your own feelings and comfort level for some guy. I hope that he'll be okay with going slower... if he's not, he's not worth your time.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): It's natural to feel different after your first time, but don't let it complicate your judgement. If you both love each other you need to be able to talk openly. Let him know if you enjoyed it or not and don't be afraid of telling him no.
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reader, kenny +, writes (6 November 2007):
 You move this relationship on at the pace you are comfortable with. If you want to slow it down abit then tell him you want to take it nice and slow. Don't be pressured into anything you are not comfortable doing, as you say he seems like a really nice guy so im sure he will be happy to take things at your pace. And i don't think you have lead him on, it was something you both wanted at the time, and it felt right, but as i say just tell him you want to take it slow.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007): Maybe he feels that you would expect more because you were a virgin before. Explain to him that you don't want things to move too fast he will only know if you tell him.
If it felt right then you shouldn't have any regrets tell him as soon as possible be nice and don't worry. You may change your mind and decide you do want more.
So let him know how you feel and accept his reaction I don't think he'll be too upset if you explain that you do like him you just don't want to rush things.
Hope this helps
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