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writes: hi im a married women that met a guy while helping my cousins find a property i met this estate agent he i taught was nice anyways he gave us his no. and shortly after i began texting him and i told him who i was we began to have phone sex which has continued now for nearly 8 months.i would love to have a one night stand wit him so i got up the courage to ask him to think about it when i rang him later that night said that he has wanted to meet me from the start but said that he would want to meet me again after that and he also said that he was worried that if i got caught it would really hurt my family as i hav 4 kids he sounded genuine. then he said that i could ring him anytime just to talk and we can still continue to hav phone sex want to know y he turned me down he knows wot i look like and has said that he i was perfect for him should i text him again ever r break all contact please help thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2006): thanks for all ur advice it all makes sense wot ur all saying i have took him from my contact list and hav begun to spice things up wit hubby will c how it goes thanks from smiles
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2006): My wife has had a text affair from August until New Years eve when I found the text. It started when she met him in a bar and gave him her number. They texted and then met with a friend of hers present on 2 occasions in a bar. I got to speak to this guy unknowns to my wife and his story is exactly the same in very detail) I am 100% sure that thats as far as it went until I found out. We are going to counselling and today I am moving out!! It has had such a bad effect on us. She has tried to make me understand that he meant nothing to her! She didn't even like him when she met him on both occasions! However, the fact that she had been texting him and having that relationship in the middle of our (supposed)Marriage is enough to ruin our marriage (not to mention Phone Sex). She has changed her number etc to make amends! The Guy says he wasn't even interested in the first place and he said that he had too much to loose in his life to get involved (My wife only had a loving husband and 2 kids to lose!). THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU ARE DOING! IF YOU LOVE YOUR HUSBAND AND KIDS GIVE IT UP!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2006): He turned you down because somewhere, deep down, he has some shred of decency left in him. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?? Seriously - do you ever think of anyone but yourself?
Life is not always about you and what you want and what makes you feel good. In fact, it's rarely about those things. You know why? Because it's selfish and self-absorbed, and that's a really good way to be sure to dry out every single ounce of love in your life. Love means putting other people's wants ahead of your own. Do you love your kids? I mean it. Seriously. What kind of mother are you?? How selfish could you possibly be, that you're having this inappropriate relationship for 8 months, the guy steps up and tries to do the semi-right thing, and instead of feeling foolish, embarassed, guilt-ridden and shocked at the person you've become, you write to an advice column to figure out what's wrong??? WHO ARE YOU??
Change your cell # and delete his info from your contact list. Take a look at your kids and try to decide what you think would make it worth your while to ruin their lives.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (6 February 2006):
 I agree with Shania on this, he is just attracted to the attention you give him.
One night stands are dodgy, I can see the fun in the lead up to one, the excitment of the date but the reality is never as good as the lead up, the antisipation, you just meet, shag and move on, very sad really and you wont enjoy it as much as you think you will, then there is the guilt you will have to deal with let alone any pregnancy or STD worries you may have, it just is not worth the damage this one night can do.
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reader, shania +, writes (5 February 2006):
 I know what this guy wants....just plain old phone sex.He doesnt want a relationship with you because even though he knows your married...he gets his kicks out of you talking dirty to him....some fellas prefer the real thing but he gets turned on enough just by you chatting on the phone to him.I would stop all contact with him and try and ask yourself why you wanted to have a one night stand with him? because it seems to me that your bored with your husband? Why dont you try and spice up your love life with your hubby.....it would be far better in the long run then to have secret chats with another man.
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (5 February 2006):
 Oh pleeaasse....
Do you have a brain?
Then use it....
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