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writes: My girlfriend and I got together at an early age, we've been together nearly six years and have a child but we've always had a volotile relationship, i cheated on her in the past and slept with another girl in a drunken stuper, however for the last two years i've been faithfull. She was physically abused as a child and has really bad anger problems for which she has been having councelling for the last year. we had an argument at a family occasion and this week she told me that she slept with her sisters boyfriend while i was in another room, not only this but she then met him again a few days after and slept with him another two times. I know that she did this out of anger and revenge and she says she doesnt care about this guy at all and that she didnt really want to do it on the second occasion, but went along with it because she felt wanted, but how am i supposed to forgive her when i feel like what she has done is so terrible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey all,
thanks for answering, I'm a strong believer in Karma so i know that on a fundamental level the fact that this has happened is my partly my own fault, and your right i know exactly how she must have felt when I cheated on her and its horrible, I’ve never felt anything like it. The trouble is I keep thinking about how when I did it, she wasn’t there and I was drunk so she wasn’t in the forefront of my mind, but she sat, with me danced with me, then snuck of and had sex in a toilet, and they both just came and sat back down as if they'd never gone. And her sisters boyfriend? Who we all know and actually hung out with the next day...what is this, Jerry Springer or what?? Not to mention going and having sex with him in his car another two times, when she told me she'd gone for a drink with friends...this all seems so callous and intentional....I don’t know if I can respect her anymore, although I’m still taking some time to let this sink in, I think that for the first time in nearly six years I don’t feel like were actually together, on a level, or that we belong to each other. Maybe I’m just feeling sorry for myself, who knows? I know you said that I should maybe try showing her love, but until that weekend things had been quite good, I got drunk and wasn’t that nice and that’s what happened. Also what if her sister stays with this guy another four years, do i have to pretend that it never happened? My girlfriend needs her familys support and i've promised to keep quite for all our sakes!
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reader, toritor567 +, writes (20 June 2006):
Brake Up!!!!Tahts mean and you cant respect that person anymore
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reader, Helen Help! :)  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Hey Huni,
I know its hard but this is what you put her through when you was unfaithful so now i guess you know how she felt. Try and let it go if it doesnt happen again for the sake of your child and make your realationship more exciting she ses she did it cuz he made her feel wanted so maybe you need to try a little harder to make her feel that way, appreciate her a little more tell her shes beautiful and that you love her. Now i think she'll feel like things are even between you two so im hoping that it all works out for you and your family. Good Luck
Helen x
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