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*mpress2012
writes:I have been with my boyfriend three years. He has been in the uk fir 7 years and revently applied for uk residency which he has now obtained. He has supported me through a serious illness and has helped me with my two kids when i need help. He lives in shared accomodation and hes 34. Most of his mates are single others are settled and married. One of his best mates recently went back to Sudan his home country to get married and has come back to the UK to find work to support his wife. My bf mate has moved in to the shared house where my bf lives and spends most of his days with him. Every time i call hes with the guy, sometimes we cant even have a conversation without the guy i the background or hes having a three way conversation and not concentrating on our conversation.I work full time and have two kids with two different men. This has been the longest relationship i have had. And he states that he hopes we can get engaged next year.We went to the city centre and he said he came as hes not doing anything anyway. Last week we went to the cinema afterwards he said he had to go home to sort some stuff out at his flat. I didnt see him for the rest of the week. Over that weekend he managed to spend time with his mate. He told me there has been conflict in Sudan so he has been monitoring it. We spoke via text and by phone.He lives i the same city as me but i only see him when it suits him. I spoke to him about it and he told me that he has been stressed about the fighting in his country and also is a bit stressed vecause he cannot find a job. And he has no family here just his mates.And told me how much he was missing me. He asked mea few days later if i could collect him after work, but i decided to make my own plans. And went jogging...i did not have many friends and do not really socialise with people from work as they are very two faced people. So my house can be a bit boring at times as its just me and my kids despite me having family here. Last night i stayed over at his we watched a movie. Two of his flat mates knocked on his door one his best mate. He invited him in and he left after saying hello. When it was bed time we had sex he got up afterwards and said he was going upstairs to sed his friend he asked if i was ok with it, i said he should just do what he wants. He stayed for few hrs then came back i left in the moring.The thing is i think im wasting my time with him. We have been together along time but its like we are going back to stage one.
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reader, empress2012 +, writes (5 May 2013):
empress2012 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for replying. This is exactly what i thought...i try and be nice to him and this is what i get. I am starting to do more things alone then rely on him.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (4 May 2013):
 Hi
He has got a lot on his plate right now, also has this good friend he lives with, which he didn't have before, so he has company and somebody to talk to about home.
He seems to have relegated you to sex only so if I was you I would keep away and keep busy. If he wants to see you he knows where you are.He has been good in the past but maybe it's just run it's course.
If YOU think you are wasting your time with him then finish it, move on completely.
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