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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 You can't blame your guy for being a little lost but the dropping and picking up of the relationship has to stop or it will never heal. You two either need to be united to sort this out or split up.
Good luck hunni!
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reader, thegirlnextdoor  +, writes (21 July 2007):
thegirlnextdoor is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe doesn't really trust me but i know that will come back with time. I was out partying with friends and a guy there went too far with me and i was afraid to say no because he was so much bigger than me. My boyfriend keeps saying that he can't be with me then after a couple of days he'll say he can't be without me and he wants to get back together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007): Does he actually trust that you aren't going to cheat on him again? Once one person in a relationship cheats then the other person knows that that person (the cheater) is capable of cheating and therefore is bound to lose trust in them. Trust is one very important element in a relationship. Without it a relationship can easily be ripped apart. If you really want to be with him then why did you cheat? I think it's best that you aren't together anymore.
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reader, Samba  +, writes (19 July 2007):
Though i understand you coz you did that for some reasons. It is happening to everyone else especially for those weak hearts/easily tempted. I suggest you to choose who really wants your heart. Dont wait the situation getting worse, it would be hard for you to settle things if that would take too long. Choose and stop doing it again. It happeneds to me as well. Dont expect 100% trust from your boyfriend anymore. The worst part if your boyfriend cheated on you without your knowledge and you realize that he is the one you love that much.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (19 July 2007):
All you can do is give the relationship time to heal.
Your guy needs to learn to trust you again and that can take a while. If you both put in the work though, in time you should be ok again.
Why do things keep ending? Who dumps who?
I don't see how dropping the relationship then picking it up again is going to help. Have a chat with your guy about it and see if you can stop the start/stopping as it may mean the relationship takes longer to heal.
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