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writes:I met a guy a few years back, because we worked together. As we got to know each other we stared hangong out, doing couple things like going to the beach together... I met his family and all his friends. But as the summer came to the end and I went back to school and he went to University we lost contact.Then 2 years later, I added him on myspace, just to be friendly.. and we got to talking and began hanging out. We hung out for like 2 weeks beforfe he moved home for the summer. In that 2 weeks we hung out every day, going to resturants, sleeping over to each others house, cuddling and whatever. We did have sex once, we were drunk and well you know how it goes... He goes home for the summer not to long after that, and we both said that we are still friends... he said hes looking for a no strings attached thing? So while hes home wwe stay in contact through texting and a few emails. He didnt have the net at his house.So when the summer is over we hung out again, I stayed over to his place and we cuddeled... made out a lil... and he told me that he did date another girl over the summer who he slept with, which I was fine with because I had my fling too...But I may want something more with this guy. And hes soo untamable. Im used to guys throwing themselves at me, telling me Im beautiful and they want to be with me and whatever... and he dosent. Im not sure if I like him or the fact that hes a challenge. Either way I dont want to get hurt. We see each other once a week... its fun and I can talk to him about anyting, and Ive tried talking to him about this... But its hard... I dont want to scare him off!!HELP!!!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (20 September 2007):
 So is it that he can't be tames or are you the lioness ready to pounce on your prey?
First, you may have had sex, made out etc. etc. etc., but you're friends. As far as I know, friends don't have to throw themselves at each other to keep a friendship going. They treat the other person with great respect, as it sounds like he's doing with you. He's a good friend, a challenge maybe, but someone who respects you and likes you for just being you.
I don't have enough information to determine what his intentions are, but I can tell you this. Forget about all those who throw themselves at you, If you do end up having a real relationship with this guy, the foundation for a lasting happy relationship is what you're building now. You can be yourselves when with each other, no false drama as so many others have. Hold on to what you have, this could turn out to be amazing for the both of you.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): What is there to help you with? He doesn't want a commitment, he said he wants no strings attached probably sex..and you said he is untamable. So either be o.k. with where you're at now, or stop seeing him. Those are your only options sorry to say, & I think you know it.
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