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anonymous
writes:Im 41 and my girlfriend is 25. We been dating for 3 years but for past year everything has gone downhill.We split just over a year ago because I was falsely accused of something at work. It was all cleared up but the damage was done. During the split she detached herself emotionally from me and told everyone we had split. Then a few months later we got back but she wont tell anyone now. Im sure she thinks she will look stupid for getting back with me so doesnt want anyone knowing.Since getting back she hasnt been able to reattach emotionally which is causing problems. That and the fact no one knows we are together has been getting me down more and more as time goes on. Then I snap and vent my frustration at her. And I am snapping more frequent.She says she loves me and cant be without me, but wont change the situation to help improve things. A simple thing like telling people we are together again would reduce my frustration by more than half. But she wont.I even suggested marriage guidence and she turned it down saying we should sort things ourselves, but we cant do that while she wont budge.Please help
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 sorry, if I were you I'd give up. You have been tryng to patch up things and improve yr situation for a year, but it has not worked and everything is going downhill. One year is long enough, if nothing has changed for the better in a year, it's improbable that waiting some more is gonna bring more changes.
The problem is that, basically , she is ashamed of you, for something for which you have been totally cleared. And then, even if you had been guilty ? Do you need your significant other to be ashamed of you ? Or do you need a partner who's supportive and understanding when you are going through a difficult time ?
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