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writes:I have been best friends with this guy, we'll call him James, for about three years. We have been apart for long periods of time, only getting to contact each other by phone or e-mail. Lately our conversations have become more "sexual" in nature, but by my standards, it was nothing more than fun and not serious.Yesterday, I met up with him in person and we got together to watch a movie. Within twenty minutes, he pulled me in close to him to cuddle and then proceeded to caress every part of my body. I was confused, but somewhat curious as I have found James to be very attractive and our mutual friends are convinced that we are destined to be together.We began to make out and things got hot and heavy. Before long we were naked in his bed and eventually fell asleep, me in his arms kissing my forehead. We did not have sex and he was smiling and laughing with enjoyment the entire time.In the morning, he pulled me in once again to cuddle and kiss, but later nothing was awkward at all. When we were eating breakfast it was as if nothing had happened.I have thought about straight out approaching him to ask what's going on in his head and what he really thinks of me. What do you think is going on? Thanks!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (9 September 2007):
 I think there's nothing to worry about. If his behavior hasn't changed toward your friendship it's OK. Two people who are friends can fool around, maybe have a relationship, and not screw up the friendship they had. I don't think he would have bad thoughts about you after that night. It sounds as if he was the one who initiated it.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (8 September 2007):
Well, that's an odd one, lots of naked closeness, but no actual sex...Perhaps this is his lead in to a relationship, with sex, or perhaps he wants that relationship and is afraid that having a sexual relationship could kill friendship. Yet, I don't see how being that close to sex without actually doing it doesn't change things. Some times very close friends of opposite sexes do things out of the ordinary like that (kind of), but the only way to know is to ask. But also ask yourself where you want this to go.
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reader, estelinvalinor +, writes (8 September 2007):
honestly... just wait things out and see what happens. If he doesn't talk to you with in a day or two, confront him.. other wise it might just be the unsure act of how to start something more then a one night make out session.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): He likes you..duh!! If you like him too it looks like you could have a new boyfriend!!
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