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writes:I have been in my relationship for 5 years, and we had sex at least 6 times a month, but within the last year, we barely have sex within 3 months at all, what should I do ? Do you think he's cheating? And before anyone say sex toys, high heels, being naked, lingerie, porn I mean all of the above.
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reader, ElleExpresses +, writes (7 December 2009):
A few things to consider here. What does your intuition believe first of all? Is your man the type to cheat realistically? Is there any reason you can think of that may be the reason for the infrequency of sex? (For example, unemployment, depression, Erectile Dysfunction, stress, or routine sex) Obviously, a deep conversation is in order here. Ask him when will he be available to have a serious conversation and set a date and time that is convenient for both of you. Bring it up smoothly and discuss that you have been wondering whether everything is alright? That you are worried something is troubling him or mention that perhaps he has perceived you to be off-limits for some reason in error and why is this? Do not accuse him of anything unless you have proof. Try to keep your conversation tone as calm as possible. Pay close attention to how he reacts. He should not be avoiding the subject. He of course may be a little insecure on the topic, but reassure him that you are concerned for your relationship and that you care about him. Tell him you wish to know anything that is troubling him or about your relationship. Again, take notice and evaluate how he answers your concerns. Is he being truthful? Good luck. I hope this helps.
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