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writes: Everytime I tell my boyfriend I love him or I miss him he seemed to get unconfortable, so I asked him why and he said he feels its too soon. We went out for a year lat year and when we were going out last year we told each other we love each other pretty much every day. We were very attached and when we broke up it was an awful experience specially for me because he was having a hard time getting back together so i moved away at my moms house and we remained broken up for a year. He always tried to talk to me after the break up. Like once a month at least but i was so hurt he didnt take me back after the break up that i was always mean to him telling him to stop calling me. Then in june i started being nice to him and trying to get him back. First he did asked me out and since he didnt seem so sure about us getting back together i told him that maybe we should just wait and then we kept seeing each other on and off for months. Then there was a time where i was ready to get back together but he didnt want to because he said he was scared to go through a horrible break up again. He said one time that if he ever gets to have a girlfriend again he will make sure that she's gonna be the girl he wants to marry because he didnt wanna have to go through a break up like that again. He also told me he didnt want a girlfriend because he doesnt have the time or money which is BS because we're doind just fine now. We were like this for 5 months. We would hang out one or two times, i would ask him to get back together and he would say he didnt know or no and i would stop talking to him for weeks or a month and then he would always call me again and try to talk to me and then we would hang out and so on, it was the same cycle. Until finally a couple days later he finally said yes to getting back together with the condition of having not such a bad break up if things dont work out. So i asked him why it bothers him when i tell him i miss him and he said because its too soon and he doesnt wanna get attached so quickly in case things dont work out because he doesnt wanna go through a bad break up again. Does this make sense?? Is he just telling me that or does he just not love me and is with me for the sex??
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 Stop with the sex and see if he still wants to hang out. You'll have your answer.
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