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female
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writes:Me and my ex (i'm 22 he's 23 if it helps) were together for the last 2 and a half years but we split twice in that time, once after about a year and again after about 6 months. We broke up for the third time about two weeks ago.We knew each other for about 4 years before dating and we were very close, counted ourselves as best friends because of it and for a while when we began dating, things were amazing. We were in love by then and both felt like we wanted it to last.However, things gradually went from bad to worse. For a while now, we don't feel close anymore and we even feel a little like strangers. We barely know each other and this is why we broke up recently. We only recently realised that our stranger-type relationship with each other is pretty much the only reason we're never happy when we date. We don't know when or why it started (though as far as i can tell, it was likely towards the end of our first year) but at some point we just stopped sharing things about ourselves and stopped being as close.We've both said we still love each other and would love more than anything to be as close as we used to, but have agreed to just be friends for now and, similarly to how two people become friends, gradually get to know each other again. Then obviously see where it ends up, if anywhere.However (after my long rant), I worry about him meeting someone new and starting a relationship while we are in this friendship stage, despite him saying he has feelings for me.Does anyone have suggestions as to how I can cope for now, so that I don't spend every day worrying? I know how to cope IF it happens, I just don't want to be constantly thinking about whether it will, and hoping he stays single.And as a side note, I know very well that we may never end up back together, so I'm not pinning all my hopes on it.
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