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*francy
writes:I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago, the problem is that I cannot get him out of my mind. What should I do? Besides, I know he is still in love with me because when I asked him to help me forget him he got very sad that he even stopped chatting with me.Sometimes I think I should ask him whether he still wants me to go out with him while other times I have second thoughts.I really want to forget him because I know making up with him will end up in heartbreaking situations in the end again. The other question I always ask myself is "were we meant to be?" Please help me.
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reader, jessica04  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 That's a tricky one:
First, I think he's just not over the freshness of the break up. You both are still pretty emotional right now, so he was most likely even more hurt that you want to forget him. I am still in contact with most of my exes, they made me who I am today, and I did have good times with them. You are with someone typically because you have things in common. Sometimes it's not enough to hold together a relationship, but just because they're an ex doesn't mean you have to forget him.
Second, if he has stopped chatting with you, isn't that what you want? I mean really, what is he supposed to do to help you forget him? If he comes over, now you're seeing him and stuck around him. If you want to forget him, just stop spending time with him, or chatting with him. And please, don't tell him again that you want to forget him. Assuming you broke up because of differences that could not be worked out (and not cheating or abuse), then it can be really hurtful to have someone tell you that you aren't good enough to even have memories of.
You only broke up a week ago, give it some time. And try to understand that he is hurting just as much as you are. Eventually, you two can move on, and if not then you were probably meant to be.
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