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writes: I am married with a daughter of 11. I share my bills, a house and a daughter but there is no love-hugs kisses or anything else. There is always an excuse for not having sex or even hugs. She would rather do the housework or watch the TV. I do a lot around the house and help my daughter with her homework and play games with her. Recently my wifes friend has made a couple of remarks like meeting in a shop and saying we are having a date or an affair. Trouble is I have fallen for her big time and can't stop thinking about her and not sure how she feels. Do I tell her so I can gauge how she feels and hope she does not tell my wife how I feel or should I leave it and hope my crush disappears?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUpdate. We had at talk apparently she is very tired and is going to try cut her hours down at work. Its great we have started to communicate again and we has great sex last night!! I am hoping my strong feelings for the other woman will go away over time. I am finding quite difficult but we have made a start to get back on track.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for you all for taking the trouble to reply. I have suggested counselling before and was met with a hostile response. I think you right i am missing out on the sex and as a consequence find the interest from another woman quite exciting. I like to add i have only ever had sex with my wife and do wonder what it would be like with somebody else. I think i will try and resist this dangerous urge and try to talk to my wife again. Let you know how i get on!
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reader, previasc96  +, writes (23 March 2009):
your wife's friend? No! She's not a friend! she's trying to sleep with you behind your wifes back! Why would you even wanna hang out with a person like that!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): I've been where you are, and what helped me was an open, honest discussion with my wife. I discovered she was frustrated about certain aspects of our life, and talked to her about what was frustrating me. Deep down, we realised we loved each other too much to throw it all away. Spending time together, away from our house (kids with a baby sitter) doing relaxing, fun things helped us get back on track.In all honesty, there was a woman at work who was being very flirty with me and I was tempted at the time...in hindsight, I am relieved I didn't take things further with her. Maintaining a trusting relationship and my family life was more important, and slowly but surely, with the aid of good communication and spending time together, my wife and I are getting the physical side of the relationship back on track.You have to be honest with yourself about whether you think what you've got is worth saving, and then be honest with her.
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