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writes:My husband and I are going through some rough times. We have been married for a little over three years, together for almost six. He cheated on me six times in four years. I forgave him and moved on. One day I took our kids and belongings and left the state. Once he found us he took off with the kids after being at my place for a week. We are now in the middle of a CPS case and struggeling hard (I am anyways, he acts like there is no hope.) He has been accused of Indecency with a Child (case still pending, going on two years now) We have sex once a week at most. He was seeing this woman named Melissa before we decided to work it out. Could he be with me for all the wrong reasons? And why the lack of sex? When he was so clearly into it with her when they saw each other. He'd put me on hold just to talk to her. On Valentine's Day he said he would call me back so he could talk to her. My guess is he told her he loved her since she told him.HELPLost
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2007): My darling im not suprised your lost, exuse my french but he is a complete nob!!!! and he is using it on everybody out there, i cant believe you have been able to handle this for so long. you are worth so much more hun how the hell would he like it? my guess is not much i personaly wouldnt want him near me you just dont no what he may be bringing home with him.. all sorts of nasty infections out there!!!! sweetheart dont put up with any more crap i really feel for you. Please get out!!! every thing you have said is a BIG!!! warning sign get help and get away from this person as soon as you can. The child indecency stuff would be enough to make me run for the hills, there must be some kind of victim support service in your area, He is a danger to you and your children please take care lots of love and luck to you xxxx
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (6 June 2007):
 The first thing you need to do is stop sleeping with him. This is giving him the wrong message and only encouraging him to act the way he has towards you. You need to be strong about this.
Your kids should be your main concern now, his history of cheating has told you one thing this man can not be trusted in the way you would like. His attachment to you is most likely to keep you happy and on the good side of him while these proceedings go through.
There is no point guessing as to what he might of done and didnt do, this is just going to send you in a spin. He has shown no signs of proper commitment towards you so why hang on with your bare fingernails going through the pain, when he is off with another woman. You deserve better than this person and i would start to try and re-build your life without him as the center.
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reader, goodlistener +, writes (6 June 2007):
He seems very disrepctful to you. Get him out of your life, you deserve better honey.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (6 June 2007):
 Let's look at the facts: #1. Your husband has cheated on you six times: That alone would be reason enough for me to file for divorce and get out. What are you hanging onto him for? Clearly he doesn't love and respect you anymore. He's tied to the "commitment" of your marriage, but his heart is not in it and I don't think it's been there for a very long time. #2. There's some kind of legal action pending against him: That tells me he has no integrity and does not think about the welfare of his own kids. To him, they are simply pawns in which he will bargain to get what he wants, or to spite you. For your own sake, and for the sake of your children, do whatever you can to get custody of your kids, then file for divorce. Look yourself in the mirror and know that there is a wonderful man out there, just dying to have a family and love you the way you deserve to be loved and appreciated. Don't settle for anything less! You will one day look back on this ordeal, and know you did the right thing and you will gain a tremendous amount of self respect for yourself in the process. I wish you the best!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (6 June 2007):
 1) Get custody of the kids
2) Pack your things
3) File for divorce
4) Get him out of your life
DV1
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