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writes:I have been dating this guy but we have a very complicated relationship. Right now it is long distance but only like two hours. It's just that he keeps moving here and dating me, but it never works out and he always needs to move back home. He has moved here twice and this has been going on for like six months now. I know that he had a girlfriend the first time he moved home and I think they are back together again. He always calls me though and two weeks ago he had me come meet his entire family. Then last week I was supposed to go see him again, but he wasn't home for some reason. He hasn't talked to me since then, but that was only six days ago. I am just having a hard time because the more I see him the more I like him, and I think I am starting to fall in love with him. I just don't dare ask him to move here for me and I can't move there right now because of school. Should I tell him how I feel or would that scare him? Also, why would he have me meet his family but then not be home the next time I went to see him?
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (9 April 2009):
Hes a very unsure man and until he knows what he wants dont play his game, you will always end up hurt and if he was genuine in how he felt he would do everything to prevent that hurt yet so far hes been the main cause.
Meeting the family is a huge step so as soon as you think hes on the right track he goes straight back to square one, you cannot live a life where you dont know where you stand with a person, his heart isnt in it so personally id leave while i still could. Use the distance a an advantage to really get over him, i honestly think thats whats best for you. People who are so uncertain of what they want usally end up very lonely people who decide too late. Dont wait around for the wrong one and let the good ones pass you by, you cannot and shouldnt be lving your life for another to make up his mind.
I think he knows how you feel, which is what makes the sistuation worse, he seems very insensitive and his uncaring nature doesnt suit your personality, (you being the oppisite , from what youve said)
Dont fall too deep for somebody who will never apreciate it or give it back, save your love for the right one, when you know you know.
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reader, Beautiibabe +, writes (9 April 2009):
Although this might sound harsh, it is purely wise words..
You should stop trying to be what he wants because it seems he doesnt even know what he wants but its clear its not you or he would be with you now and you wouldnt be writing this.
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