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writes:Well... I've admired this guy for about a year and a half now he's always sat infront of me in japanese class. But there was one thing kind of hindering my feelings for him, his now ex-girlfriend (who looks like a sex goddess compared to me.) and it seems about a month ago he's started noticing me more. And I thought he really liked me but the other day I heard his freind and him talking and I assumed it was about me because they where both looking at me when his friend said in a low voice "yeah but she's fat." I know Im fat but I wonder where they talking about me or am I just being parinoid? And if they where why would being fat matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): listen, don't let that get to you trust me i used to get made fun of when i was younger and i let it get to me but now i`m at the point to where i don't care what people say or think about me. if he likes you then good, but if not just remember there are plenty of guys out there for you. hes not the only one. one day you will meet a guy that cares and loves you for whats inside not out. and just remember looks only go so far they fade eventually with time so just don't let these little immature boys get to you by saying stuff like that.
hope this helps :)
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (3 July 2009):
 You've got it going on if he's noticing you.
I can't say for sure if they were talking about you, but if they were, apparently your crush said something nice about you and his friend was downing it. Who cares about what his friend says though...he isn't the one you have to impress. You keep on being yourself, looking pretty and being smart, and if your crush likes you he will say so. And if he doesn't, there is another guy right around the corner! :)
Also even if his ex-girlfriend looks like a sex goddess, she's still his EX. Looks alone can't hold anybody. You've got to have the whole package.
Don't worry too much and keep on being you. Self-confidence is sexy!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2009): I wouldnt let what they said bother you, a healthy person has a bit of weight on them and also looks quite a bit more attractive than your fashionable skinny woman. I for one know which woman id feel attracted too. They, as an aunt said below, are just following the crowd and being young, there lusting after pop stars, magazine pictures any of which are not real. I have walked around these streets for over forty years now, and not once have i walked past anybody who resembles these airbrushed figures, only people i saw were natural people of all shapes and sizes, and if you think you are fat, then celebrate the fact that you are your own person, not someone who practically starves themself to try and attract a man. Love what you are, and be happy, because after all, a man will never hang around for long based on looks alone.
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reader, Mazzy +, writes (3 July 2009):
You were probably being paranoid. Ask him about it.Thats the only way you will find out for sure if he was talking about you.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 hun they're 16-17 year old guys they are dumb and totally immature there is nothing wrong with a big size most guys prefer women with something to hold onto and cuddle up too.
if they were then they're clearly pathetic and not worth your time.
don't let these put you down or get to you.
one day you'll stroll in head held high and have all the guys falling at your feet and they'll feel pretty damn stupid.
they're type of girlfriends are like models stick thin blond hair big boobs and models aren't even that attractive.
it's a boy fantasy though they'll get over it when they get out into the real world and see everyone for who they really are and not just airbrushed models.
hope this helps message me you want to talk further oki hun :)
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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