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*ravelMouse
writes:I started dating this 27 year old mother of two girls, 9 and 10, back in November. We were in Spanish class together at the local community college and spent a lot of time talking about travel. A month later we booked a trip to south america for two months together leaving this May 28th, pretty soon. Here is the problem; a few months ago she went to visit friends in Portland and came back telling me that we can't date anymore because she still has feelings for this guy in Portland, but she still wanted to go on the trip. I was pissed but this was 2 moths ago at this point. During those 2 months of breakup, she acted exactly the same way she did when we were dating. Now, all was fine until this weekend when she started being sketchy and telling me that she was going out with friends. She always told me who except now. No I pressed her and she told me that he would be visiting his family in denver til tuesday and we won't be able to hang out this weekend. She says that she still wants to go on the trip. Is it better to go solo? She says she wouldn't hook up with him but I'm not sure that matters at this point. I really want to go on the trip and I'd like to go with someone, but is this time to keep for myself?Thank You all Reply to this Question
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reader, IAMDONE +, writes (15 May 2011):
It was a blessing that this woman told you that she rekindled a relationship that she had in the past. She could have continued to string you along and not tell you.
It is amazing that the two of you have continued a relationship as though it is business as usual. That would for me to be very hard to do if I were in your shoes. It appears that you really care for this woman.
I would continue my plans to take the trip with her since she still wants to go and she has no problems going with you. I do believe you need to be careful and rethink this relationship so you do not end up getting hurt.
Enjoy your trip!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (15 May 2011):
 Dont let it get to you, I doubt there is a relationship here for you, but dont cancel the trip if it is something you have wanted to do for a long time.
If you have booked separate rooms GREAT! If not, see if you can change the booking to a room with two beds.
Treat her as you would any other friendly stranger you happen to be sharing space with, polite but firm.
You dont even have to sit with her for breakfast,but talk to others on the trip and get as much as you can from the experience.
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