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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My fiance doesn't trust me! About 18 months ago I was a little out of control with my spending and hid all my banking records from her. I finally built up the courage to tell her about my problem and of course she was upset. Now I am completely open and honest and she even helps me control my online banking.She still doesn't trust me. Every now and then she will get angry for a really strange reason and treat me very coldly. She questions various trust issues such as my fidelity. Just to clarify, I have never even considered cheating on her.Today is the worst! She recorded some videos on my phone and wanted to transfer them to the computer but we were having trouble getting bluetooth to work. After a while she went into the bedroom to do something while I kept trying. When she came back I had managed to transfer 1 of the videos. But then I couldn't get the bluetooth to connect anymore. She thinks I sabotaged it to hide something from her!The frustrating thing is, I am hiding nothing and haven't done anything wrong. We got pretty upset with each other but now she is absolutely convinced that I am hiding something. I gotta say that I am always with her or at work so even if I did want to hide something, it would be very difficult.She has told me that she has issues trusting anyone at all and only trusts herself! We are supposed to be getting married in 1 month and her mistrust is tearing the relationship apart on a regular basis.What do I do....? I can't lose her, I love her so much!
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reader, StarryEyes101  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 You need to sit her down and just tell her everything. What is a relationship without trust? She is gonna make you feel like crap if she keeps accusing you of things. When you are married, it's going to get worse.
She needs to be told that you haven't lied to her, you won't lie to her, you have never and won't ever cheat. How can she expect that you cheat if you are either at work or with her?
I really hope this helps
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