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writes:I'm just curious about what others think.My question is, are relationships with coworkers always a bad idea?Basically I work with this guy at my campus job. We're both sophomores at the college, and we get along pretty well. In fact for me being the shy and nervous person that I am, he's actually one of the few guys I finally feel comfortable around. Plus we actually have some things in common and we always have fun conversations whenever I come into work.However, that's where my concern lies. We're really just friendly coworkers. I rarely see him outside of work, and if I do it's just a "Hi" as we pass by each on our way to class. Now I don't have feelings for him yet. I don't feel that attraction to him, but I do however enjoy his company and I'm always happy after chatting with him whether it's about music, books, movies, or classes. Not to mention he's super nice and often gentlemen-like with manners. I've talked to my parents about him, and my mom says I should ask him to hangout with me and my friends but I just don't think I've reached that level with him. I honestly feel like the friendship wouldn't be the same outside of the office if that makes any sense. But I've never had a boyfriend before or really any male friends since I get so nervous around guys. So I don't know if now that I've found someone I can easily chat with and who shares common interests if whether or not I should try getting to know him better. Like I said though, I'm not really attracted to him physically, and I don't get that feeling from him either (that he finds me attractive that is) so it's not like I'm specifically LOOKING to date him. But who knows. I feel like we could possibly be good friends.I'm just wondering if work relationships are best kept at work? Or should I try to hang out with him outside of work.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (6 April 2014):
 I would go for it. in the Army you hang out with co workers as friends only. Its ok in civilian world also. i would enjoy that with a few select best co workers and bosses. I miss them I dont work with them now but we didnt hang out except at work only events. i was thinking to invite a co worker over to my place for movies games and dinner but thought they really didnt care for me really so why bother.
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