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writes:Ok then this is really wierd for me to be putting this here but it feels like I need answers for my question than other peoples.Ok so I am quite literary really scared of sex i've never done it before, I have a gf and i'm 18 and she's 17 and she's willing to do it since we love each other and plan on being together forever (yeah that's said alot but who knows) and I really do want to, but i'm scared of what she'll think of my body, she says she wouldn't care but I really can't help thinking that way and let's say my 'thing' is what i'm most worried about it's normal but uncommon, the skin is over even during 'arousal' and yeah I kinda need advice on what to do and stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone it helped alot I feel alot more confident, and I feel a little silly too ^^;But thanks still.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (12 July 2008):
 I remember being pretty scared too so your girlfriend will feel the same way probably.
The first time will probably seem a little awkward as you dont know each others bodies. Just take your time and progress slowly from kissing to touching. Some of it will come naturally and you will find yourself just getting on with it.
Same for sex itself, amimals dont have sex ed or watch telly or talk to their friends but still know what to do, its built in. You will know what to do and with experience you will build up your tehnique to get and give maximum pleasure. She will have hang ups about her own body and if she loves you she will love your body too x
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Oh Sweetums,
This sounds a lot like the ages when my hubbie and I first did it 35 years ago... AND EWWH! LOL!
It is possible to find someone and stick through it all, even at your age. Don't worry, we are all worried and scared about our bodies, our sexual performance and how we do the first time, that's just a totally natural fear. The best thing to remember is that she is there WITH you because she wants to be there as much as You do, And she is JUST as nervous about how she is performing as you are. As far as your "thing" goes, she doesn't have a "thing" herself; and is probably nervous about that, and how to treat it. She's also probably worried about how you like her thing too, and it's all new territory for you both to get used to! SO - try to realize that it's All even, you are Both a bit uneasy, fair enough, it's All new!
If I can give you a bit of reassurance, most girls don't wind up in bed with a guy that they don't Absolutely Adore, so I can assure you, she will be nervous, but she will be SO excited to finally be with you, Hunnie. The MOST important thng is to be kind, empathetic and TALKATIVE!!! Try to work through your fears and talk about everything, what you like, what feels good, and what you are thinking about. Communication is the biggest thing in promoting a great sex life.
XXX
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 O.K. dude, from one uncircumsized guy to another.
The foreskin generally doesnt retract until the head of your penis is well lubricated.
Try this, get some lubricant ( like KY Jelly )and apply it to the tip of your penis. Then slowly "pull down the hood", you should be fine then. The same will happen when you are having sex, your natural lubrication will allow the foreskin to retract, and my friend us uncircumsized guys have way more fun than the boys who've been chopped up!
If you still cannot retract the hood even when well lubricated then it might be worth going to see a doctor.
But it is quite rare for this to happen.
But stop worrying.
And as for what to do, if it is your first time then simply take it slowly, tell her it is your first time, if she loves you she will be very supportive. So just let nature take its course. Sex is a learning experience and practice makes perfect!
good luck.
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