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writes: right. i know i am too young for sex but i feel like me and my boyfriend are both ready. he feels the same and we love each other loads. we know all the risks, i am on the pill, he has condoms, we are both clean and both virgins. we have been speaking about it for over a year now and have decided to go along with it. i dont turn 16 for another 8 months so we have said we rnt going to wait. everyone says we are mature for our age hes in my year at school but he was 16 in september. we have been going out since i was 11 in primary school we used to kiss under coats 4 years ago. thats a long time to of been going out and managing to not have sex. we have nearly done it a few times. ive sayed at his and hes stayed at mine and we have been layed wathing t.v and we.ve both ended up getting very... well we have both ended up naked and snogging each others faces off but we haves stopped ourselves from doing it. i mean why have done other stuff dont get me wrong we rnt all innocent but we have now decided to go all the way. we have been very open with all our parents thoughout our relationship and my dad all ready seems to think we have slept together even though ive told him we havnt =s but the reason im asking you is because im worried after 4 years of been together and only been 15 im worried we will get board of each other and once we have had sex we will both go different ways. i dont want this to happen im just sared it will. do you think it will?? will sex spoil our relationship??thankyou for reading all answers welcome please x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007): I was in exactly the same situation when I was your age, and I'm still with my boyfriend now. If you've been together for this long and held out ten I say go for it - he obviously see's so much more in you than just sex. It's a big step, but it sounds like the next natural step in your relationship. It shouldnt ruin things in such a long established relationship. Hope everything pans out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): I'm not going say you shouldn't do it because you seem mature enough and have already made that decision for yourself. If you're absolutely sure that you're ready, he's not pressuring you and you know you're not going to regret this in the future then go for it.
You've got the pill, he's got condoms, use them both and you can push pregnancy out of you're mind.
No one can really say whether or not it will spoil your relationship or not. That's down to you and him. If you're strong enough as a couple then you'll be fine. If that's the case then you'll both be able to try this fab experience and share it together and be even closer than before.
Good luck and have fun ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007):
Hi you do seem to have a mature outlook on all this.
The truth is that you don't know how things will turn out. Nobody does.
You may find that sex will bring you closer as a couple and make you stronger. On the other hand it may bring problems in to the relationship, problems that end up causing you to break up.
Sex is a huge thing and once you have it, you change as a person and you can never go back. Sex can be incredibly passionate and exciting and a true symbol of expressing love, yet it can also contribute to serious emotional pain if things do go wrong.
It sounds to me that sex might be the next natural stage in your relationship, and if you both feel ready then go for it. On the other hand, you're still quite young, you and your boyfriend will not be same kind of person in 5 years at all as you are now.
Personally I'd say if you feel ready, then how would you look back on this in many years to come? Will you be glad that you shared your first time with your boyfriend, or will you ever think it was a mistake. It sounds to me like you have a very special relationship. So many people loose their virginity in regrettable circumstances, whereas what you have sounds quite special. Even if things did go wrong after having sex, I don't think it would be any thing to regret because life is about making mistakes and learning from them.
So will it spoil your relationship? There's always the chance, but a risk is not necessarily a reason to not go ahead. If you feel ready then go for it. If you are still unsure then hold back.
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