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writes:My 88year old dad died almost a year ago. My younger sister (45years old) took it very hard (she's neurotic anyway). We have a great deal of property that belongs to us all (Dad had 4 children) my sister will not cooperate in the selling o the property and hasnt spoken to any of us for 4 months now. The houses are all empty, costing a fortune to upkeep but we cannot do anything to get her to cooperate.She wont talk to us by any means and is alienating the solicitor too.What can we do? (We don't want to use courts) Reply to this Question
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (21 October 2007):
 Hi - it's Richard again. Just a couple more thoughts. Maybe there's a legal website you could check out similar to this. What about if you sold your house and moved into one you've been left. If it's land - is there a legal way of dividing up the inheritance property between you all - allowing each of you to do what you want with your allocation.
I know legal action is horrendously expensive - and risky - but sounds like good legal advice is essential here. Might be worthwhile spending some time (not necessarily money) tracking down a creative/motivated inheritance solicitor. For say 2 hours advice might be the best £500 you've evr spent between you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): Thanks for all the replies lots to think about.My sister doesn't have any friends at all- she's driven them away by unreasonable behaviour in the past.She is married to a spiteful and mean-spirited man who doesn't have any values.They have two disabled children 6 and 9.She has also alienated all the family and neighbours.She has a pretty rotton life really but one which we (the siblings) would like to improve but cannot if she refuses to communicate. We cannot rent the properties without her agreement neither can we sell them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Does your sister have any friends? Maybe she has someone who is close to her who can communicate with her better that her family. It is just a thought. If she is going through a bad time then maybe you need to try and get close to her instead of feeling so alien towards her. It will remain a stalemate situation without her cooperation and solicitors and courts can actually make things worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): There is lots you can do, but it won't work unless you stop taking your sister for a degenerate. She must have her reasons (it probably won't be money!) and if you don't listen to those and take them serious, she will not cooperate for sure.
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (20 October 2007):
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if you go to court in the future, the estate will end up in testate, which means the only people who can make money out of this, is your solicitor and the courts, and could go on for about 50 years,if your sister is neurotic or not, she is still your sister and should be treated as such, maybe she is taking the death of your farther badly, maybe the closest person to her should ask her what she thinks about the sale instead of telling her what to do, without shouting at her,then you may be able to come to an arrangement, if not then why not rent the property's you will make a mint.
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reader, Richard_EMids +, writes (20 October 2007):
Hi. Seems to me there are two approaches: (1) You try find out whats at the heart of her obstinacy - seems like she's trying to make a point - or wants some respect - or some attention - or recognition. Not sure how you do this if she won't talk to you - but maybe thro a mutual friend or other relative.(2) You find out if there's a legal way of getting majority rule - must be something that says she has to have reasonable cause to delay selling redundant property. You might not want to - but might have no choice but to use courts. Let's hope it doesn't come to that. Good luck.
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