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We're ready to get married but his parents won't consent - is there a way around this?

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Question - (23 August 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 7 September 2009)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am an 18 year old mother of 2 beautiful boys and their father is only 17..we are trying to get married so he can go of to the army but its becoming impossible because his mother does not approve..we have been together for 4 years now and were truly in love.how would it be possible for us to get married without his parents consent..?

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (7 September 2009):

RAINORFIRE agony auntits possible probably alot of work why do you want to get married now after all these years. His mom is looking out for her sons best interest and getting marred at 17 usually is a bad decision. but since you have children with this boy there's no good reason for you not to marry him.If he becomes an emancipated youth he wont need moms consent secondly if hes was as into gettng maried as you seem to be then im sure soldier boy could convince his mom it cant be as hard as getting her consent for him to join the army because at 17 you need a parents consent to be all that you can be.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009):

Not necessarily, RCN. My husband was at basic training and infantry training already when he was seventeen, and that was a year after he joined.

It does depend on where you live though. You probably just need to wait a little longer. There will be an oppurtunity while he's in the army for the two of you to get married. You don't need to do it immediately so just wait until the legal age of non parental-conset required marraige. I'm sure that day is soon.

And if he hasn't joined yet, then it's not likely they'll send him off immediately. The Army family has a motto:

"Hurry up and wait"

And boy is it true! He would probably be 18 before he left for BT or AIT, giving you time to wed before he leave, if it's important to you.

Goodluck. If you have any other questions reguarding the whole -Young and taking care of kids while hub is away at the army- thing.. feel free.

~Sy.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (23 August 2009):

rcn agony auntDepending on the state, some consider a level of being emancipated if a child is born. Even so, states consider 18 to be lawful age of marriage, without parental consent. Even if he had the legal decision making as an adult, he'd still have to wait until 18 to marry.

Isn't 18 the legal ages as well to enlist in the military? If so, why not wait and get married and have him enlist both when he's 18. That sounds like the plan that will work best for you. Even if a loop hole was found, he'd be 18 before the court hearings and process can be complete.

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