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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:So there's this boy that I like and really care about and he likes and really cares about me too. we have know each other for three years,we are all ways together almost like everyday. he takes me out to the movies and to eat and sometimes I return the favor. we have sex together a lot, he calls me everyday like 2times or more a day. if I talk to another boy or say I like another boy he gets jeoluse and tells me he gets mad, and doesn't want me to talk to them. and I like that cause it shows me he cares. and also we really enjoy each others company so basiclly were like boyfriend and girlfriend but without the title.now here's the problem... he has a girlfriend and has been with her for four years and he jus won't break up with her. we have talked about being together and he tells me he really wants to be with me but he says it hard to break up with her cause he's been with her for to long and feels like it would all be a waste. His girl is arab and her religion is muslum so she can't have a boyfriend and she can't see him so they never see each other they just talk on the phone.I really want to be with him and if I be like its eaither me or her, he won't choose cause he says hes confused then ima be really confused like I been for the past 3 years. and I don't want to be without him so any advice on what I should do?
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 You're basically his 'bit on the side'
He doesn't love you because if he did then he'd of split up with his gf
Why on earth you'd put youself in that situation i don't know because personally i'd rather be with someone where i know i'm the only one he's with!
He's playing you around
do you know what i'd do?
Tell his gf and then leave him standing there with EITHER of you
You should have more respect for yourself than that
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 he needs to choose. no more sex, dates, and only very few phonecalls until he does!!! because right now you are being "that girl" who ruins relationships and you don't want to be her! it isn't fair that he has put you in this situation and has kept you there for so long [although you did walk into it willingly]. so chin up, find your pride, and DEMAND he make a choice. stick to your guns, don't let him bat his eyelashes and go all vulnerable on you so you cave. he needs to make a decision.
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reader, sabz +, writes (12 August 2008):
 i say you got to make him choose.you really want to spend the rest of your life like this? is he muslim? im a muslim. its not fair on his girlfriend. you really can't let it go on. its either got to be you or his girlfriend. do you really want to share? make him choose because the longer you leave it the worser it will get latter.
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