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writes: I have friend and we have been become really close in the last 3 years. Like married, but not. He is gay and has always asked me for advice and we have even have accounts together and credit etc... He has moved now and we have not had the same relationship. I want to cancel the commitments we have together that are pretty serious but I don't want to hurt his feelings too. He has not been very considerate, (I'm forgotten) lately but when he needs me I have told him in the past I would be there for him (my word). He needed me recently and I was there for him again. He has a new serious boyfriend and I feel awkward about the accounts we have together, his name is on my condo together. It was there for either of us to just get away when we needed to. Should I tell him I want to close all the accounts, remove his name from the condo, move his stuff? Do you think this is a healthy relationship? Should I stop being friends? Reply to this Question
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reader, missdee +, writes (22 September 2005):
You do need to cancel any commitments that you two have together including taking his name off of your condo.
You two have different lives now and as you said "he has moved on and you two do not have the same relationship."
You need to look out for your best interests. If all he wants from you is friendship then remain his friend. If he just wants continuous favors you need to move on because he is only wanting someone to lean on when he needs it. That's not friendship.
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