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41-50,
*ewy
writes:i have been with my partner for 7 weeks, but i feel he has been distant with me although he still sees me, the other day i asked if he wanted to finish, we agreed to a cooling down period, i am worried that he may not contact me, should i contact him or wait to hear from him?
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Take things more slowly with him, if you come across too needy it will freak him out. After all 7 weeks is not very long for any relationship to develop, Rome was'nt built in a day, give each other space seems perfect sense. Go out and have fun without him, if he sees that you are getting on with your life, he may want to come back into yours and pick up where you left off. It shows that you are independent and that you don't rely on him entirely to fill your lonely times up, otherwise it will look like you are living in each others pockets, which is not healthy for even the strongest of relationships.
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reader, skye +, writes (6 August 2007):
 As hard as it may be, my advice is to wait for him to contact you. I know that you are feeling bad and want to make things all right again, but you cant rush this issue.
Try to busy yourself with other things, like your friends and family. Decorate that room you have been promising to do for ages or clear out the attic. Anything just to keep yourself busy in the mean time so you dont get tempted to ring him.
If he does not get back in touch with you, then I am so sorry, but as Polly has said at least you werent together 7 years. You will find the right man for you.
I have found the secret to a good relationship is open and honest communication with a degree of compromise on both sides. It seems so obvious, but you would be surprised how many people still keep things bottled up. This can only lead to resentment.
If he cares for you and you have a chance as a couple, then he will come back to you. If not, then you have had a lucky escape of more heartache.
I wish you well and I will be thinking of you,
Skye
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