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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:HiI've been dating this girl for about 4 years, and things were going pretty good, we had our ups and downs but we always got through everything. we even could laugh at ourselves in any argument. Recently she just decided that she wanted a break to experience single life because she felt she lost who she was and didn't feel like she was the same person when she first got into this relationship, she assured me it wasn't me, and that this was something she really needed. She says she still loves me very much and feels this break will only make this relationship stronger and that she will tell me her decision in a few months, but i can't help feeling scared that she will fall for another guy while i wait for her even though she assures me that isn't her intention. i just cant' seem to be comfortable with this arrangement and i feel like its eating me up inside but i dont want to hold her back. Am i just being paranoid and possessive? should i just wait and have faith? i feel like i'm being cheated on even thoough i know that is the last thing she wants.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 June 2007):
 When anyone you're with asks you for "space", it's always a bad sign. I fail to see how a relationship can grow stronger if you put an end to it. She says she'll let you know her decision "in a few months". How many months is that? What if, after those months, her decision is that you'd better stay apart?I think she is telling you, in a polite way, that she wants out. Let her do it. You'd be possessive if you didn't. If I were you, however, I would tell her that the break applies to her, too: that you will take your time to experience single life, too. Go away in polite silence, and move on.
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