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writes:I am still inlove with my child's father. But we havnt been together in years. And weren't even together that long before I got pregnant. We get along great ( minus the few times we do argue) and we still sleep together off and on. I do so much for this guy. And havnt been in a serious relationship since him. I don't understand why we share a child hangout and sleep together and yet I'm still not good enough. And I am pretty sure he has an idea of how I feel. Am I doing something wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (6 January 2011):
 You aren't doing anything wrong. I was in the same exact situation with my son's biological father before he passed away in June of 09'. I bent over backwards for him, gave him money, rides, a son, and did everything in my power to please him because I thought maybe then he would realize that we were meant to be. Boy was I wrong.
Your child's father probably knows how you feel, but since he is still sleeping with you and has a "relationship" with you in some way, he feels that he doesn't need more than that because it also frees him up so he can see other people without it being cheating.
My son's father was a user. I let myself be used because I thought I was in "love" and I wasn't. It was infatuation (I lost my virginity to him) and I now have someone who loves me as much as I love him and he doesn't expect me to do every single thing for him. That is what you deserve. Someone who loves you and cares about your feelings before their own and it doesn't sound like this is the guy for that.
Please try to move on from this guy and stop sleeping with him, he is getting his cake and eating it too. Tell him it needs to stop. Find someone new if you want real love you are going to have to stop sleeping with this man and find someone who is going to love you like you deserve. I really wish that I would have realized this sooner with my son's father, but I didn't.
Good luck to you. Let me know how everything turns out okay?
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (6 January 2011):
 It's nothing you're doing. He's just not that into you. He hangs out and sleeps with you because you're available, but he doesn't love you the way you wish he did.
If you want real love, you'll have to look elsewhere. In the meantime, stop bending over backwards for him. He's not your boyfriend or husband, so there's no need for that.
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