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writes:HiI am 24 and have been married to a man ,30, for 18 months, together for 4.5 years. The problem I have is he still acts like a single man and I am getting tired of going through the same issues over and over. He is a drummer in a band and music always comes first, financially and with his time. We recently moved 1hr from my family/friends to be closer to London and his bandmates. He has also stopped working, not that he has worked much anyway since we got together. He doesn't help around the house either.I work long hours and want to spend the time off I have with him, but he chooses to go out with friends, stay out late drinking and spending up to £500 a week on his social life. Last night, he didn't come home at all, with not even a phone call (something he does every few weeks, even though it upsets me). I feel like I am being taken for granted, but he says I am making a fuss over nothing. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, TRUST +, writes (6 May 2007):
i definately think your not making a fuss out of nothing. id be furious. you need to sit down and talk. he absolutely NEEDS to get a job. do not let him spend your hard earned money. it seems to me that he still wants to be 18. you need to tell him to grow up and start being resonsable otherwise you wont be there forever. if you dont put your foot down now then he will always be like this. you should not be second to anything or anyone. your marriage is still new and you should be enjoying life together not apart. good luck!
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