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writes:Hi guys,It would be nice to get some opinions on my situation as it is at the moment please.My husband and I were going through some business and financial difficulties early part of last year and it caused us to lose sight of each other.My husband met another women whose marrriage was breaking down and they made a connection and started seeing each other and my husband left me.He has been back and fourth a couple of times since this has happened, but the last time he left I told him once you move in with her that is the end of us.We only had contact for a couple of months when it was something to do with the children, until a death in his family.We went to the funeral together and we reconnected it made us realise what we had and decided that we wanted to be together.He has got in deep financially with the woman that he is living with so we have decided to sell our house and business and when this happens we are going to move away and start again.He is living with her until this happens and she has no idea what is going to happen, we get to see each other every day because of the children and we phone and text constantly.Would just like to know what people think I suppose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): HiI am in the same boat and I was trying to find away to fix everything. My husband of 11 years told me we will have to move away and start over and take our one child with us. But I was being played the whole time. He made all these promises and gave me the world. At the same time he was playing the other women. He is with her now and they started a life together far away and he wont see his child until christmas. Be aware of your surroundings. Men want what they want and can be selfish....
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Good luck hunni. Some people do deserve second chances.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 June 2007):
flower girl is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks everyone for your opinions much apprieciated.
The monies from the sale will be going into my personal account that hed already been arranged so i am not worried about them doing a runner and leaving me in the s@#t also he was suffering with depression which has since been treated and that has helped him to realise what he has done and he is truely sorry and tells me this daily.
I love him more than anything and i do believe people deserve a second chance and i also believe that seen as we have been given this opportunity we won't mess up.
Thanks again everyone and take care.xx.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (29 June 2007):
When do you think another woman will come along? And how do you know that they don't have plans to leave you high and dry when your house and Business is sold. Why Don't you do this. Tell your husband that you want all of the Money from the sale of said properties put in your name. That way if he is still playing games He'll soon put his foot down,and say,NO, NO, NO, You don't know what she knows, only what he says she knows. You don't owe your husband a thing. He's the one who walked out. Me I wouldn't trust him one damned bit. You have children to look out for, So see a lawyer so that your rights and your children's rights are taken care of. You got burned when he left you for her. And they just may burn you again when you sell the sale of the house and the business.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 I guess I will be the odd ball in my thoughts. I worry why and how he could have gotten so deep in debt with her...and then why come back to you (and I understand about the death and all, I do) was it so he could just sell the business and your home to pay off their/her debt? When something sad happens it is easy to be with the one you have been with for so long...but it is! And what happened to your financial situation, did it disappear? More then anything I want all couples to stay together and work it out and for your sake, I hope you do. But I guess if it were me, I would always think...anytime we get in a situation such as this..are you gonna go run to some other woman? And then come back to me? "Stuff" happens I know, but not in the arms of another. And why is it that you should have to give up a home and business that you two built together? I see this as his problem to fix somehow, but not for you to take the loss just because of his mistake. And why does the other woman not know he is leaving her and for sure...why is he still living with her??? That is just me and we all have our own thoughts in how we see things. I guess because I had been cheated on when I was married...and he did it a few times more, I could never go back to him even if it was because of the sake of kids which fortunately for us, we had none. I did not want to live the rest of my life thinking could he be off cheating or anything of the such...I forgave him, yes, but couldn't live with him anymore. To you, you follow what you feel is best. Good Luck to you!!
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (29 June 2007):
I think moving away and starting afresh is a good thing but make sure you sort any niggles out before you move as you can't run away from problems. They will chase you down where ever you are. You both need to be 100% sure this is what you want and you can both forgive and forget the past :)
Good Luck!
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reader, Brandi +, writes (29 June 2007):
 yes i think that is good to start over and FORGET the past
good luck sweetie
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