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writes:Ok well here's the deal. Basically im worried bout mine and my mans relationship. He's a few years older than me but that aint the issue, we've been together for 5 weeks, well just over. We're both going to college in september, im off to do my gcse's cos i foolishly dropped out of school there for didnt do them when i should've. And he's doing an art and design course, problem is, its gonna be so hard for us, im scared he's just gonna ditch me, and i really dont want that to happen. We're not going to the same college's, we kinda live in the middle of the county and we're going to college's on either side of it, talking about a 45 min bus ride everyday. Im gonna have to be waking up at 6am every day except the weekends of course, and i'll be totally nackerd by the time the days up and im home again. Where as he'll have to be up early as well, but thats no problem for him as he's used to it with having to get up early for work. But he's not quitting work to do college, he's just cutting back his hours doing the days that he aint in college, so from friday to sunday. With that We're never gonna get the chance to spend any time together, i really dont wanna lose this guy, he's amazing and iv never been with anyone who treats me as well as he does, im just worried that one or both of us are gonna cave into the strain and stress of it all, im feeling really worried about this situation and im lost for what to do?? Please please help me out here someone.. x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2008): I think you should sit down and try and find a way through this. It doesn't sound like he has time for a social life at all, regardless of whether its with you, family or friends.
This being an issue in itself.
Evenings would probably be the only time, and even then I can see your point. Its on track for disaster.
As I said you can talk to him and I know that sounds like a standard answer but most problems are solved with just a bit of communication. That way you don't just assume things, the fog clears and you know where you stand. Have you asked him what his plan was through this? When he planned to have a social life in general for one?!
If you live together it shouldn't be as bad. Work will take over when your both in college, and the evenings will be the only time when work can be done. But as I said, you need to talk to him. Don't give up straight away, there might be a way through this.
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