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writes:I don't know if I should pursue my crush...I recently worked up some courage to finally talk to her, we had a good conversation on the phone. And I was thinking of going on to the second step of asking her out for some coffee where I could get to know her more.But here is whats bothering... she is an graduate student but she has an internship this summer so she seems to be pretty busy...Now I know I should just do it and ask her out and stop wondering if it will workout or not...but now that I think about it...even if she say yes there is just so little time for us to build a relationship before we are separate...I'm starting to think that if I should just back off, try to forget about her and not have to face the chances of rejection...or should I still try to pursue her? Will these kind of relationship work?Thanks for listening!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know...I guess it is just that I have a lot friends that are/were in distanced relationships and it worked out between them and it seemed to be OK, it is just that I tried to forget about it like any other girls, but this one kept stuck in my head even after years. And plus she is only 4-5 months older then I just don't know... but you are right for most parts..Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): I perceive that she is a bit older., anon. This is a tough case at your age. I was there once.
She will be buried up with work as a grad student. She may not be seeing anyone else, but that does not mean that it will be easier for you. I think I can understand your feelings. She is probably a great gal...and intelligent..and interested in the same things you are. But, I don't see anything in it for you but friendship, anon. It will hurt, but, it will pass. Forget the romance, young friend. I don't think it can happen. Stay with a friendship relation. You can learn a lot from being friends with an older gal. Believe me. But, don't embarrass her with a sudden burst of emotion. That would ruin everything. Keep cool, anon. There are girls unlimited out there. You will meet the one for you.
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