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*oneychild4402
writes:i went out for my 18th bday bak in january 2008, i decided to go out in a town which i never been to for a change. and met this really hot guy and we swapped numbers, he made the 1st move might i add! we got to texting the next day and he picked me up, we went to his house watched a film, had a laugh, he took me home and we kissed b4 i got out of the car, (hes only 2 years older than me aswel mite i add) anyway that was that, we carried on texting each other for the next couple of days and he asked me if i had went to a certain restaurant for christmas dinner, i was shocked and said yes and how he know, he said that he was there having christmas dinner with his family too, and couldnt stop staring at me throughout, i however, didnt even notice him! and we were both really shocked that he had seen me xmas day.. then i had happened to turn up at a club he always goes to.. and here we are! we both say it must be fate LOL. anyways, i got to really like him, but we have never been official. He is always busy but whenever he gets the time he sees me, sometimes we go weeks without seeing each other but keep in touch by text, other times we see each other quite frequently. anyways i really like him, and i mean REALLY.. a lot! i dont know why, theres just something about him! ive never wanted anything more than to just have a relationship with him, i only ever asked him once where we were, he explained that he doesnt want a relationship coz he got hurt the last time by his first girlfried! its the same with me, i was heartbroken when i finished with my first boyfriend, and did worry whether i would end up heartbroken again in another relationship, but i picked up the peices and moved on! and i dont let that hold me back! anyway, ive come to notice that im the one always texting him, he rarely texts me, he'll reply, but its always me who has to make 1st the move. now and then il get a text from his asking do i want to see him, but never really a simple text like 'how are u, what are u up to' one time, i even stopped texting him just to see if he would text me...we went a whole 2 months with out speakin! in the end, he text me! and then we were seing each other occasionally, and textin all the time! we had planned to see each other again over the weekend until i was on facebook one day an he was listed as 'in a relationship' i was so angry! i text him and we had a huge arguement, i guess since we're not official hes allowed to date others, but i like him so much i even turned down relationships cuz i always thort there cud be something there for me and him. and also, i thought he didnt like relationships coz he got 'hurt'. anyway, they finished in under two weeks, and he text me and we started seeing each other again, i explained to him that i was kinda hurt coz me and him were sort of an item and he had went into a realtionship with sum1. anyway we were on and off for another few months (the reason why i am sayin on and off is because i see him here and there, we're not always together like a couple are) and he done it again, listed as in a relationshp with sum1. that was the last straw for me, i was soo hurt that he done it again, to know how little i mean to him, not a care in the world how i felt. i jus cut him off, i deleted his number, stopped texting an ringin him and accepted he is not for me! anyway, they split, then the usual routine of him texting me came bak! i think he is just using me, not for sex may i add, coz we rarely have it! do you think perhaps he likes me, but just doesnt want to get too close because of his fear of getting hurt! i am soo confused, its me the one whos getting hurt not him! he needs to understand that ive been here for him all this time, through the bad and good times...clearly hes not going to get hurt by me! do u think i should just cut him off completey, i just dont know what to do!do u also think that, the reason i may like him so much is basically coz i cant have him?i just need answers, i need to do something!! i want him out of my life so i can live without all this agravation, but a little part of me is telling me to keep him in it
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reader, honeychild4402 +, writes (14 April 2009):
honeychild4402 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you for taking the time to read this both!
also thank you both, for your answers!
this is what ive been needing to hear all along, il just have to accept that this is the way its turned out. it hurts cause i really liked him, and ive never been in a situation when some one doesnt have the same feelings towards me. i guess this is what rejection feels like, but i guess we all have to go thru it at some point in our lives eh?
anyways yes i deserve better, thank u both for helping me realize that XxX
...and i CANT WAIT until the next time i get a text from him asking to meet up! i will jus simply say no and dont give my reasons! better still, il jus ignore him! let him do all the wondering as to why im gone :)
thanks again both
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (14 April 2009):
 yeah i think he is using you hun he's keeping you as his sort of play toy so that when a relationship goes down the pan he's always got you to fullfil his needs and i know you said you rarely have sex but he's having everything with you without the emotional attachment.i would just give up on himyou're clearly wanting more from this and wanting a relationship where as he still isn't wanting that he just wants to have you as and when something doesn't entirely work out for him.it's not good for you because you deserve love back and he clearly doesn't want that he probably thinks you're doing the same just looking for fun for the time being.i would let him go now hun you've given him all you can and for what?he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you which is what you want most he just wants some fun until he finds another girl to get with.its totally unfair on you.Hope this helps.
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