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writes: Hi, I have tried to have sex with my girlfriend. We are both virgins and I can't seem to get inside her. I've been given advice and done everything like lots of foreplay, being relaxed, alcohol, use lubricant, using fingers to open it up, condoms, made sure it's really wet and nothing helps. We are both really ready to do it and have tried on three separate occasions and numerous times on each night but it is still too painful for her. We've read about the hymen but instead of a thin layer of skin covering the vagina my gf seems to have a lump of soft skin. Is this normal and how can we have sex without it hurting??
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reader, SXYBB91 +, writes (7 August 2006):
why dont u try fingering her first to try and realise the skin my bf fingered me and it hurt me and i was sore the next day but like 2 weeks later he had sex with me.
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reader, ask stivy +, writes (27 July 2006):
 Hi , ask your girlfriend if she can gide it in for you becouse at the end of the day a woman know her body a lot better than we do. iv been reading uther ppls oppinions and ye...dont be fritend to hert her try to push a little harder it might just work.
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reader, mjmoonwalker89 +, writes (23 July 2006):
 i agree, its going to really hurt but dont let that put you off? at what stage do you stop trying because you may need to just push a little bit more... i cried when me and my bf first had sex but he wasnt a virgin so he knew what he was doing. trying numerous times in one night will make it hurt progressively more so dont fret - just keep relaxed especially on her part... she may think she's relaxed but she might not be... good luck mate and it will come naturally!
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reader, AndersAmanda  +, writes (23 July 2006):
 To be completely honest. It is going to hurt like hell. How old are you? If you are any younger than 17, just wait another year. You might not be fully developed. Trust me, it took times before my ex b/f could come near to "putting it in" I even cried. Point is....It's supposed to hurt. It won't feel good the first few times you do it. You just have to give it time and patience. Make sure she and yourself are bothe very comfortable...Put on Sade..Her voice is amazing.
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