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writes:How can I make the first move?Me and the guy that I like are both really shy and neither of us have made the first move to be more than friends.I want to let him know I'm ready for the relationship to go forward but without doing it in a slutty way.Does anyone have any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2005): try unspoken ways therefore you dont have to be shy in saying these things you are acting them rather than speaking them..try music it might sound silly but find a song that best explains your feelings and tell him it made you think of him and get him to listen to it..it works believe me.
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reader, pops +, writes (15 October 2005):
I once had a woman friend find me at the poolhall, and whisper in my ear, " Let's go home and F*** ". OUr relationship shifted to a new plane that afternoon. So what is wrong with doing it( whatever " It " is?) slutty? Most men like women who talk dirty to them in private. Perhaps I am at a loss as to what level a relationship you are wanting to take whatever it is you have with him, to.
Everyone is shy and nervous about starting a relationship with anyone else. Anxiety is always there. Just because you may see, or hear people being direct about asking someone out, or in expressing their feelings for some one, does not mean they are not shaking in their shoes with anxiety. You have to talk to him. Start out, privately, by asking him if he likes you. Let him " talk " in one word sentences. He is shy after all. Ask him if he likes you more than the the woman who sells him his newspaper every morning, or whatever? Get silly, so that he laughs. That always breaks the ice. Then tell him how you feel, and that you want to be more than just smiles, and waves when you pass. If you want him to kiss you, tell him to kiss you. Teach him how you want to be kissed. ( There are thousands of ways, and places.)If you want him to hold him, show him how you want to be held. If you want to touch him without him jumping out of his skin, show him how you want to touch him. Ask him if you can do that in private/public without him acting like he has been bitten by the Loch Ness monster? Build the relationship one brick at a time. as you both become comfortable with each other, the shyness will go away. He has to learn to trust you, and vice versa. Go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2005): just talk to him,found out if you have anything in common.if so make a date
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