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writes:Hi i have been with this guy for 7 months i realley love him alot and he says he loves me to but he broke up with me because he says that he don't want to be in a committed relationship right now and i'm not ready to be in a committed relationship as well and i was fine with how things were when we were boyfriend and girlfriend i just want things to go back to the way they were because i don't want to lose him because he is a realy good guy and he has been there for me and my kids what can i do to fix things between me and him?
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reader, micpets  +, writes (4 March 2010):
To be or not to be, that is the question.
He is a great guy and you don't want to loose him at the same time is good with your kids. Sometime in life we have to be honest when it comes to what we really want which means going down a different road.
That different road is both sides being honest about how they feel towards each other which means talking about the situation. In life there is never the right time to do what you exactly want therefore one is never ready for commitment which means you either give it a real try or walk away especially where kids are involved.
who knows what may happen if you gave a go; if you don't try you will never know and I mean serious - sorry for sounding so firm.
hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): I'm in the same situation. A couple of months ago, he told me he didn't think we should keep going like this and he was broken and couldn't commit etc. I said I understood that and still don't want a commitment either. Then a couple of weeks later he called and said he wanted to keep going as we were. I think when you both understand that the other could handle the end ok, it takes the pressure off and you can keep what you have now.
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