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writes:This is going to sound so rude but its driving me insane all my friends act the way I did when I was 14 and I can just see them making all these same mistakes although were all 16. I, and I don't mean this in a boasty way, get on much better with older people and they always tell me they thought I was about 18 in appearance and maturity. How can I make my school friends grow up or do I just have to wait? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Unfortunately your friends will have to learn from their own mistakes. We can't "make" someone act a certain way. If you don't like what they are doing, either limit your time with them or hang out with your other friends. It's frustrating when they're acting childish, but until they mature they won't change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): sorry you're gonna have to wait. People mature differently and at different speeds. Sometimes they never grow up. I know what you mean though. I mean I enjoy the occasional political debate that my friends couldn't dream of listening to. It's hard and you could either find other friends with same interests or accept them and accept that you too are still a teenager. It's okay to be a kid.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 Why, exactly, do you need or want them to "grow up" and become more mature? That's the first question I have. Why is it necessary?
16 year olds are not, generally, renowned for their maturity. In fact, I know some people my age (21) who act like they're 14. When one matures is generally individualistic - some, like yourself, mature more quickly while others mature more slowly. You just need to let things play out naturally.
It also depends on what you mean by 'mature'. In my opinion, most people never mature fully - most still have a sense of childish behaviour throughout their whole life, but can be mature in some aspects.
Don't expect them to be like you. How they act as people isn't of your concern unless it readily effects you or hinders you in any way.
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