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anonymous
writes: im 13 should i have protected sex with my bf and we both luv each other i mean its been 3 months he is 13 and we r both ready for anything im just scared ill get pregnant or will get stds
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reader, lena +, writes (11 January 2007):
 when i was 13 i tried having sex but it didn't work for me i wasn't physically ready,your first time is nearly always difficult and you will worry about things like pregnancy and stds. if you use a condom you should be fine!
you may think you are ready with the hormones racing around you but mentally you are not, you may be phyiscally able to have sex but there are emotional consiquences like if you break up with this boy you will be mentally desroyed because he took something so precious away from you.
good luck in what you do xxxxx
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reader, Thekris1234 will help u  +, writes (13 December 2006):
I know a couple of people at your age that have had sex, there is no need to be scared. As long as you trust him then you will be O.k. My friends were O.K. with it. If you would like to carry on then you should and if things ever get out of hand then stop for a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): I started with sex at 13. Unlike the others here, I believe if it feels right, and you are both the same age, then it is not wrong. You will not get STDs from using a condom. However, using a condom is not 100% effective. If you are worried about getting pregnant, stop having sex. No contraceptive is 100% effective. There is always a risk. It's up to you to decide.
Take care.
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reader, Choongalicious +, writes (11 December 2006):
 OMG, man slow down!! Your 13, Im 17 an have not gone that far yet lol. However, I am not here to judge you. People generally try to prevent teenagers from having sex, but it is something that they cannot control. Teenagers will do what they want to do anyway. Hopefully, you will continue to use protection. After 3 months, I am not completly sure that you are aware what love is. I am trying to find out what love is all about myself. Love is a strong word and should be used carefully. I don't agree with what your doing, because if you don't know about sex and the dangers than why are you having sex? Your too young and should wait you may regret your decision later on in life. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): MUCH TOO YOUNG! sorry but you are! Your bodies and minds haven't developed enough yet, you should wait until you are both 16. When you get older i think you will regret having sex so young. Just what is the hurry? You will get a better level of satisfaction and understand with maturity so stop try to be older than you already are. Enjoy your youth, doing young things. Please.
Take care
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (11 December 2006):
 Find out about your local family planning unit.
You are a bit to young to have sex but if are to have sex please always use condoms.
Apart from getting pregnant, you have diseases but only takes one to cath you like Aids. Be safe! PLEASE!
Age and ignorance is not excuse, it is about keep you safe and others!
You may not see this now but 3 months in a relationship is nothing, for any age.
Take care XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): I'm sorry but at 13 you are still a CHILD and shouldn't be having sex!!
Judging by your question you are no where near ready for sex or the emtional impact that its gonna have on you!! You should be out enjoying yourself instead of thinking of the consequences of sex and the worries of STD's and pregnancies will have on you! I know when I was 13 sex was the last thing on my mind.
Your young and have your whole life ahead of you to be bogged down by worries like that!!! The only way not to be so caught up in worries is not to have sex til you are old enough and emotionally ready for it!!
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (11 December 2006):
 although im glad u used protection but am not enthusiastic about ur sexual activities at this stage, u are still a child u should be worrying about what u will get for ur next birthday, movies, tv games etc, not getting pregnant or std's enjoy being a child and leave adults staff to adults. sex comes with a lot of responsibilities and u are not matured enough to handle such responsibilities, i think u need to start looking after urself and make decisions that will not reflect negatively towards ur future goals. im not implying having sex will prevent ur future goals but the impact might not be something u will be proud of some yrs to come bcos u will have jumped some stages of ur life and in life u cant get back what u have lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): just as an opinion...you are WAY too young for sex. I'd suggest to talk to someone about safe sex however you will probably be told you are too young anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2006): you arn't ready for anything, you are 13, you will regret losing your virginity so early later on in life. Sex isn't for 13 year olds, you are still kids, just stay a kid as long as you can. You both can't be mature enough at 13 to handle the emotional impact of sex.
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