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writes:Is my boyfriend strange? The ex-bf and I got together during the summer then in July he wanted to get back together to which I resisted for a couple of months as I was pretty happy being alone. He didn't try to impress me by recognizing my birthday in August.Then in September and October we spent weekends together until one weekend in November on a Friday he didn't even mention about me coming up. Turns out he had his daughters come up to close up camp with him. I am sure he thought his daughter would stay the night so he blew me off for the weekend. Last weekend he told me his daughter would be off for a month and he would be spending time with her. I went up Wed. for Thanksgiving and stayed until Fri. morning as he had then changed it to she, his daughter, was off for ten days and would be coming on Fri. In years past we would have spent the weekend together . He brought me home that morning and we were about to have sex when phone rings and he says that's my daughter, "Finally!" OMG did you really just say that, I thought. First in another time he would never have answered the phone at that particular time and rarely takes any calls when I am with him. She had initially told she might have to work on Fri. and Sat. which is not usually the case for her as she works on Sun. I have to wonder if she is trying to avoid him. Anyways recently he got drunk and asked me what I like about men and I said why to which he responded with cuz I thought it might help me. I am thinking he didn't ask to improve anything about our relationship. Unlike before we broke up, he never texts me during the work hours at all. So anyways I haven't heard from him as he is just so tied up with his daughter staying there. I think he is weird. I find him to be a little obsessed with her.Thoughts?
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reader, vanelliliz +, writes (28 November 2015):
vanelliliz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes answering the phone then was totally out of character for him. He did not want kids and wasn't particularly interested in either of them all while growing up. He called me texted me whenever they were there and since the youngest turned 16, now 18, he does things that we have done with her. Skiing, hiking.
Now he doesn't text me or call me as I said when she is there. I told him this hurts me and he could just send a text but he ignores me instead. I told him she needed you more when she as younger and you were calling quite frequently while they were there. She doesn't need you every minute. She's grown up now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2015): I don't quite get why he would answer the phone while trying to have sex, that's a bit weird or rude. But absolutely nothing else in your questions sounds like he is obsessed.
As much as I love my boyfriend I would rather spend time with my children, I would always put them first and we need time together. I include him in our lives but when I'm spending time with my daughters I wouldn't really want to be texting.
Out of curiosity why is he your ex, what happened before to split you up? If he seems more distant this time around have you sorted out all the problems you had before?
If he's trying to spend more time with his daughter than he did before maybe they are trying to sort out some problems they have between themselves and he's anxious about her phoning him because maybe he did something they fell out over?
I don't really understand why you think him asking what you like about men is to do with his daughter though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2015): She is his daughter. Don't try and put yourself before her, if he is any kind of decent father, you will lose that battle every time.You are his girlfriend, and as much as that means, you are not gonna be prioritised before his own progeny. That's the way it works.Sorry.
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