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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a relationship for two and half years and everything was great until about a year ago when he (pretty much) out of the blue decided that he was to young to be in such a committed relationship and wasnt sure about us at the moment. (he's in college last year, i graduated a year before) I was obviously heartbroken and after two months we got back together because he said he realized that i was actually the love of his life, that he couldnt see the future wihtout me. I took him back because i truly believe that what we have is special and eveything we have done meant something(traveled, parents..ect..ect) He decided to do a masters at same school and is an athlete there but there is this girl he semi hooked up with when we were on a break that also goes there. I had been noticing he had been acting weird these past few weeks but he never said anything until a week ago when he said he had fallen a little for her and didnt stop what he was feeling but knows that he wants to be with me and loves me and what he feels for her is nothing compared. he said he would stop talking to her and would avoid her..(she likes him too) I want to stay with him because i love him but i am scared that in a few months he will want to end it and be with her since they go to school together and will inevitably see each other occasionally . I dont want to get hurt again but i do not want to give him up..I believe that he will stop and try to forget her but something inside still tells me that she'll be in the picture. i just need advice soo sorry this is so long. idk what to do/ think.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 Hi,
normally I would say if you trust him then he will stay faithful.
But its hard to say, he's a young man, away from you with the temptation of this girl constantly on hand. This is what is going through your mind as well. I think it will eat you up, especially as the connection appears to still be there between them. And you simply can't live your life when you are so young worrying about your boyfriend cheating on you. Its not fair
I honestly don't know which way to advise you to go.
Perhaps one way is to break it off gently telling him you think there is still a connection between he and this other girl and you simply think the temptation will be too much while they are going to school together.
His reaction will indicate how much he wants you to be together.
Feel free to ignore this advice, it really is a tough one .
All the best and good luck .
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