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writes:Hi I wrote up the other day here was my question, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-talk-to-my-daughter-to.htmlI suggest you read this other wise this question may not make much sense it's not very long so won't take much time. Well thanks for the advice I got it was great, I would just like a bit more help with the situation. Well I would like to know how I should bring it up in a general conversation (the thing I want to talk to her about-in the original question) and when and where would be the best time and place to do so? As I said in my last question it was a big shock to me to see that I can't seem to get it out my head and it's bothering me a bit as I can't stop thinking about it and I keep going through all the options of what could of happened in my head, how can I stop this? I also don't want either of them to feel they have to hide the whole situation and make them as comfortable as possible. Also although I know they are both 16 and I trust both of them, I know they will have sex at some point if they haven't already, I would just like to know how to deal with that, i.e- if I heard them or something. I wouldn't mind them doing that as long as they are careful. Do I try and give her advice or just leave them. Hope you can answer my questions as it would help me a lot sorry if this was too long. Thanks in advance! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): I never had this talk with my mum but with my dad it may seem strange the way he did it but i will always thank him when it is just you 2 alone just ask her if she is having sex if she is always honest she will tell you and explain that you care for her deeply an if she ever needs 2 talk you are there for her or the other way is to go out and find some pamphlets about safe sex and them on her bed or under her pillow she may come 2 you and ask
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (2 August 2007):
 well when i was younger we were told about sex and contraceptives in school but my mum and sisters both talked to me about it.. i know its embarresing for her and you too but approach her when she is in a good mood and say hunnie do you mind if we have a talk sit down and just say that i want to be sure that youre aware of being careful if you were to have a intimate relationship and tell her that youre more than welcome to help or talk about any of the things she wants to know and not to be embarressed as lots of other kids have had this talk with their parents. and that you just want het to be safe and that you dont want to be nosy you just want to make sure she has a greater knowledge on this subject as their is many things to know about it and you only want her to be safe hope this helps xxx A
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