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writes: I've been communicating with this wonderful guy for the last nine months. We both live in the same country and have known each other since babies basically but we because re-acquainted after a long absence. I study in London now and we communicate every day, either by phone or email or IM. He does all the things a boyfriend would do: remembers all the special occasions etc incredibly supportive, that sort of thing. When he talks about me, he talks about "us", probably having getting married etc when we both finish our postgraduate degrees. The problem is we have never actually had the talk about how we feel about each other, we've sort of skirted around the issue and made jokes about to see how the other person responds. He says when I come home in 5 weeks time we will have a serious talk about "us" but I don't know whether we are having a relationship or what. It's like an unspoken commitment without actually saying it. We both aren't dating anyone else. What should I do? Liz Reply to this Question
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reader, Delila +, writes (27 September 2005):
Clarify!!! There is nothing like throwing a little light on the subject. Ask him in as few words as possible "are we a dating couple?" or something like that. It requires a yes or no answer. Straight. If ye can't communicate on this basic level then what hope is there for you as a couple at all. It does take balls to ask a question like that though and personally I like my man to be the one with the balls in the relationship. But then each to their own.
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