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writes:We went out on 5 dates, then he met someone else, but didn't tell me for a while. I didn't contact him for 3 weeks, but phoned him yesterday, and we had a really good chat, and said we'd meet up for coffee... but no date was arranged. (We do get on very well, so are only meeting up as 'friends'. How long should I wait before I call again? Obviously I'm hoping there's a chance to win him back, how do I play it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (1 June 2008):
 Well I guess the whole point of dating is to get to know someone better after an initial attraction, to see if you want to take things further. Don't get your hopes up too high until you're sure he really likes you, and don't assume he'll commit until you're an item. Easier said than done, I know! xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes he is still seeing the other woman, but he hasn't made a commitment to her.... so he told me.
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (30 May 2008):
Well he must know you're interested in him, because you called. He must have been interested in a relationship with you as well at some point, as he did take you on 5 dates (unless he saw it as 'just friends'...?)
So basically, he knows you're interested, so wait for him to make a move. I'm not saying don't call him, but just act friendly for now - he had a chance already, so don't let him have another without him having to make an effort. Is he still with another woman? If so, be weary. You don't want to be a fallback plan (sorry if that sounds horrible!). You want him to want you and only you. So assuming things didn't work with his recent relationship, get in there, make him laugh, be friendly, look like a knockout - make him want YOU. But of course, don't let it show that you've made too much of an effort!
Good luck! xxx
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