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writes:My man is larger than average. He likes to go deep but it hurts me way too bad. It feels like hes poking me in my stomach and I feel I have the worst cramps of my life. Do you think that its just because of his size or is there something wrong with me? Also, I can never have an orgasm when we have sex. Only when he orally pleasures me. Is this normal?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 January 2012):
 Is this the guy who removed his condom and didn't tell you?
First of all, you should not do anything that causes you such pain. Pain is our body's way of telling us something is wrong. Pain is saying "stop." He is battering your cervix and that's generally not a good idea.
Secondly, is this guy ignoring your telling him that it hurts? If he is, dump him immediately. He should be careful of you and your body. You have delicate tissue than can tear and bleed. You are not a rubber doll.
Finally, and most importantly, is that you have to take charge of your own body and well-being. "No, stop, that hurts." Those few words are short, perfectly understandable and you should be able to say them confidently and without fear. "No. Stop. That hurts." I don't care if he's turned on. BFD. Your health and well-being are more important than an ejaculation from some position.
Take care of yourself. Be brave! Be smart!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 January 2012):
 There are some positions that allow deeper penetration and some that are pretty shallow, you should stick to shallow ones (pretty much rules out any rear entry positions). He is also perfectly capable of controlling how far in he goes, so if you tell him it's hurting you, he can pretty easily just not go so far. You can also be on top to control the depth more. That sensation of being hit in the stomach is your cervix being hit. You should just tell him how you feel about it. I don't think many guys will be offended being told they have a larger than average penis.
As for not orgasming from intercourse, that's totally normal. In fact only 25% of women ever have an orgasm from penetration alone, ever. Not 25% have them regularly, 25% have ever had them. This is compared to 81% of women who orgasm from oral sex. So yes you're very very normal.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (17 January 2012):
 If what he's doing makes you uncomfortable please tell him so. I've been with more than my fair share of guys with large tools (9 inches and above) and sometimes you just have to tell the guy that he's not doing it right. Another reason why I prefer to give those guys oral, but that's besides the point.
Grinning and bearing it isn't recommended.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 January 2012):
 I've had a few well endowed men and sex with them was pleasing, but I ached the next 2 days. Yes, the penetration can feel good but it can also hurt at the same time.
I'd tell him to take it easy on you. That really he's causing you more pain than pleasure. As the other poster suggested, take up the girl on top positions. You may orgasm if you stimulate your clitoris during sex.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (17 January 2012):
Well, there is nothing normal about any of this if he is unusually huge.
To be really, really blunt, he is going to have to adjust his technique so it does not hurt you or he is going to have to find an unusually tall woman to have sex with.
You may want to try getting on top of him so you can control his level of penetration.
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