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writes:I have been invited to the wedding of a friend and I need some advice about taking a date. I am single and would generally not have a problem going alone but in this situation I would rather not. The main reason is that it is just out of the metropolitan area and I really do not want to be travelling back late on my own. I could arrange to stay somewhere overnight but I can't be getting back later the next day as I have other commitments. Also, I am not going to know too many people there, just people I have met briefly over the years through my friend.I did ask a male friend of mine but unfortunately he has booked to see a show that night, along with another male friend of mine who could've also been a possibility (I too was invited but I've seen this show before and wasn't really interested in seeing it again, so they went ahead and booked a while back). Another male friend has gone overseas to work and any other guys I know tend to drink a bit and would probably make fools of themselves.There is a guy at work with whom I get along well and I've known him for the last 18 months or so. We are not particularly close but we do chat a bit and there is a bit of unspoken stuff between us. He nearly asked me out for drinks last year but then nothing happened.I am seriously thinking about asking him to come along. I do like him and I think he would be gracious and reliable. But I really don't want him to think I'm asking him out on a proper date. It would be more like he would be doing me a huge 'favour', which he would in fact be doing.It did not actually say +guest on my invite but I assume it would be ok (I will check with the bride first).Is it a good idea? And how do I ask him? I don't have an actual problem asking him, its just that we are usually surrounded by others when we are together. Maybe send him a FB message saying that I have a favour to ask and I'd like to speak to him at work sometime? The way I see it, it's not a family wedding so he won't have to put up with the mandatory 20 questions!!
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (4 April 2011):
If your invite does not say +guest, I would most likely assume that you don't have an extra invite. You can check with the bride, but most people specify whether there is a guest. Because they need to know how many people to expect, because that's a big thing when it comes to cost. If many of their single friends have another guest, the costs add up really quickly. As for asking him, it doesn't hurt (if you are allowed a guest). Since you aren't looking for anything romantic with him, you don't really have to worry about scaring him away by inviting him to a wedding.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 Ask the bride first. Simple as that. IF you were single at the time of the invitation, she doesn't expect you to bring a date. (don't forget feeding all them guests is costly so inviting "random" people to tag along is jsut tacky).
If you guys work together, I would stop by his office (desk) and say hey are you free for lunch, I need to bounce something of you? Then ask him at lunch if he is willing to be your "date" for a wedding. I wouldn't do it via text or FB.
But.......... ask the bride first.
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reader, sweetsiepie  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 hey hunny theres nothin sayin u have 2 ask a guy 2 your friends weddin. u cud take 1 of ur girl friends and have a laugh with her instead havin relationships like that in the work place. i dont think there a good idea cuz yeah it mite be as friends but things always build up from friends and if u guys have got 2 work together if im honest it wont be worth it sorry my sweet.
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