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writes:My b.f and I started daing about 3 years ago.. we will be getting marring in about 1 yr. actully less then that the date is aug 2009. Anywho we decided a long time ago that we would wait till marrage to have sex well. hear we are im still a virgin. But he had sexual relations before we started dating. I want to make it good for him. But i have no clue how, any advice? Oh and the whole blow job thing he is really turned on by it, Im not, can i do something else. I know I dont need to give him head to make him cum I can do that just by kissing his neck. But yeah any help for a first timer oh btw he is 19 im 18 when we get married ill be 19 he'll be 20. thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): Dear Poster
I think it is great if you want to save intercourse for when you are married. By the sounds of it, you are exploring and experimenting other ways to satisfy each other. I am a little concerned as to why you are not prepared to do oral sex? Is it because the thought of oral sex is revolting to you? Is it because you are unsure of what to do?
I am however going to give you some basic information on fellatio(oral sex on a man); IF YOU DON'T NEED IT NOW, KEEP IT FOR FUTURE REFERENCE!
Performing Fellatio (Oral sex on a man)
Find a comfortable position.
He should be immaculately clean.
You can begin by kissing and licking the penis; then, holding the shaft in one hand, swirl your tongue gently around the tip.
Next, explore the shaft, running your tongue around the ridge where it meets the head and vibrate it gently against the frenulum.
When you feel ready, take his penis into your mouth; do cover your teeth with your lips; take the whole head into your mouth; with your teeth well apart, move your mouth up and down, allow your partner to guide the rhythm with his hands on your head.
Maintain a steady rhythm and firm pressure.
Don’t bend the penis to far down; this can be painful
The penis should always point upwards.
Gradually increase the speed until he is ready to climax.
Then, if you do not want him to ejaculate in your mouth, withdraw and bring him to orgasm with your hand or switch to intercourse.
There are various other alternatives that you can practice when you are getting comfortable
Remember, the scrotum is also very sensitive so you can use your tongue and mouth there as well.
Hope this is of assistance to you.
Enjoy, it is much nicer then licking an ice-cream!
Deep-throating, if desired or preferred, is usually easier if the woman gets on her hands and knees, perhaps on a bed, and facing the man while he stands in front of her. This places her mouth and neck in a position that usually makes deeper penetration into her throat more comfortable for both.
Remember that he may be extremely sensitive after ejaculation. Very gently, clean his tip with your tongue if you wish, and cuddle up with him for a good night's sleep.
I need to stress to you that sexual compatibility is very important in a marriage and it is most important that you both communicate your likes and dislikes; needs and wants now!
I wish you both lots of happiness.
Always keep smiling.
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reader, apathyslastkiss  +, writes (5 December 2008):
 Hey there,Thanks for posting this question, it's a good one. First, just let me say congratulations on getting married, and congratulations on staying a virgin! That is really an amazing and blessed thing to see. Your sex life with him will be wonderful! First of all, I'm sure the fact that you're a virgin does something to turn him on. But the main thing to keep in mind about pleasing each other is communication: You need to talk to each other about your likes, dislikes. It's good to see that you've already begun that, but you will need to keep it up. Also, if you're not ok with pleasuring him orally, he will need to understand that, and be ok with that. There are some other things you can do with his 'member' however: 1) You can give him a hand job, which is just masturbating him, jerking him with your hand. Maybe try using your own saliva as a lubricant - that might prove to be the next best thing to actually putting his penis in your mouth. 2) You can let him titty f*ck you (sorry for the vulgar term of phrase). Lube up his penis (again, maybe with your own saliva), and put his penis in between your breasts. Then smush your breasts together and move them up and down over his penis - OR, alternatively, let him thrust his penis between your breasts. These are probably the best alternatives to oral sex, but you might also want to try and work up the courage to give it a shot. Would having him shower and scrub down there before giving him oral sex help you in doing so? Try thinking of it as just another part of his body - just more skin. Maybe that will help you take it in. Pretend it's his neck! lol. Anyways, again communication is key. Talk to each other and find out all your likes and dislikes. But then again, exploring each others bodies, and trying new things together is a big part of discovering what pleases you and your partner. So, if you love and trust each other, you will be alright! Good luck!Graham
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