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writes:Hi,Okay ladies, i need help please! My ex and I are broken up for 5 mos. now. we had been together for the past 5 years...she has resisted all attempts to communicate, except when I called her 1 mo. ago...She is in school again, and taking classes..very busy for her..anyhow, some girl i know said that girls never forget, and sometime down the road, she'll reach out..question? i know she's "over" the drama, but is she really over me? i'm a guy who still loves her, but i don't know why she is avoiding me...is it to avoid "feeling" something again? I know she doesn't hate me..we never fought, but what do i do? let her go? not contact her? I don't want to seem needy, but damn it, i miss her...is she seeing someone and that's why she doesn't reach out?help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): I think this is her way of getting you out of her head, by avoiding you. You love her yet she mustnt feel the same way or she would be in contact with you. You have to face the facts mate that it is over and you just have to move on. Life hurts like hell at times and the people who we love so much can be so cruel to us at times. Just let go and gracefully move on and meet someone who you so rightly deserve.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (5 November 2007):
 It is hard for someone to love a person and not feel the need to be close to them. Since you have broken up if you think about the reason for the split it might help to put things into perspective. If you have been the one who is making all the attemps at communicating again she might be resistant because she is not giving into her real feelings. It could be out of a selfish reasoning or her need to deny any love she might have to put you off guard. If the relationship ended badly she might be avoiding the conflict it could bring back into light by having contact of any kind with you.
Indeed there could be many reasons why she is avoiding you. If she has acted in anyway like she still cares and you initiated the breakup she could be trying to protect herself from any other heartbreak. Sometimes when a person is afraid to make a real committment they avoid at all costs going back into a realtionship that is going nowhere. Committment takes two. If you were together for 5 years perhsps she was looking for a committment beyond just the boyfriend/girlfriend type. Some people who don't know how to communicate their feelings effectively will withdraw and avoid someone for fear of not knowing what to say or how to say it.
If she is realtively busy with school and other things in life maybe she is just too keyed up to communicate with you at the point. I would say back off a bit, miss her, love her but do it from afar. Weigh your options and think about the decision to split. Who was the one who wanted to break it off and why? Feel what you feel but allow the ex girlfriend to feel her pain in her own way. Give her time to really miss you. Give her space. Don't press the issue of loving her. Let her know it and leave it be. She has a big decision to make if you two decide in time to try again.
Love: Set it free and if it is meant to be it will come back to you. May God bless you and lead you to seek his will.
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