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*ovexkiss
writes:Me and my fiancé was together 5 years and was moving in together in end of march and the day we were moving in he broke up with me as he told me he didn't love me any more.I was heartbroken and didn't see it coming at all.Then the next day rang me to say he made a massive mistake so I took him back just assuming he had cold feet about moving in together,a week later he was meant to be moving in the flat and he told me he couldn't do it at all and broke up with me again.Cut a long story short,he broke my heart and then completely cut all contact from me,Like i was never apart of his life..2 weeks later he went into a relationship with a girl who is 18 and works at the gym where he works,she only starting working there 1month before we broke up with me.So obviously i was shocked and heartbroken he moved on so soon..two months later I saw his brother who told me to ring his mum as obviously we were very close as she didn't have my number because my ex scribbled it out of the phone book, any ways I found so much out about his new girl friend,shes 18,she works with him and does everything for him...but he keeps and calling his new girl my name every time? and still has his photos of me and him in his room?? Im soooo confused,he doesn't wana be with me but all the signs say that he does?someone help me? they have been together about 3months now is this a rebound relationship? everyone's telling him it was too soon and he made a massive mistake breaking up with me,even his friends :( he never wants me back though...just wish i could just make him see what he had and lost x any advice would be great. x
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reader, lovexkiss +, writes (7 July 2011):
lovexkiss is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you :)he has finally contacted me saying how sorry he is about everything and how he just wants me to be happy and move on. my friend bump into him the other day and he told my friend to telling me how he saw a advert that reminded him of me and that he said hello,which i thought was nice of him and that one day he wants to be friends..where do i go from them though? why all of a sudden hes speaking to me?
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Guys are sometimes cowards when it comes to major decisions in their lives, like moving together, being pregnant unexpectedly or marriage. These are the major things I could think of.I would suggest, why not speak to him and say that if you only knew that he would chicken out at the thought of living together, you would've understand and would respect his feelings. It should not mean, breaking up. This is only when you have the chance to speak to him.He is with his new gf now, you also have to respect that. The good news is, it seems he is still in love with you. However, he is in a new relationship now and he has not done anything to get you back, therefore, the feelings he may have left for you are not enough to make him come back. So its much better to move on with your life rather than wasting time wondering why he left and when he'll come back. How can you make him see what he has lost? Well, just move on. Continue to be who you are. I suggest you stop hanging out with his family or visiting his mom, he will can detect your desperation. Instead, be on your own..go out with friends, meet new guys, join a club, anything! The point here is that you should think about yourself and be happy.When this guy sees the happiness in you and that your life just went on without him, I tell you, that's when he will realize who he's lost. When you are happy, regardless if he sees or not, you are the winner.Good luck, girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): I'm sorry this happened to you, but unfortunately you may never know why he broke up with you. There's not much use in wasting time wondering about it, or his new girlfriend. You're the most important thing right now, so you need to try as best you can to put him out of your mind and focus on healing and moving on. Try to spend time out with your family and friends, and do things you enjoy. Obsessing over him and trying to figure him out isn't going to work, believe me. That jerk isn't worth another second of your time. Even if he was scared of taking the next step in the relationship (which is crazy because you've been together 5 years!), he should have at least had the decency to talk to you about it first. If nothing else, at least you know that when it came down to it, he didn't want the same things you did. P.S. It might not be today or tomorrow, but one day he IS going to realize what he had and lost.
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