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writes:Ok so the way my situation started was with a lot of good signs from this lady I met at the dog park. I thought she was absolutely attractive and luckily my dog went to play near her dog and ended walking with her around the park so I said here goes my starting line with her. However, I dread it and never approached her cause I did not want to make her feel like I am creepy dude. Anyhow, as I noticed her leave the park she stayed walking around the gated dog park and I thought to myself I should take initiative and talk to her but still was hesitant. Anyhow I left the park and there she was sitting in her car that was parked next to my car! so I smiled at her as I walked by her car and she smiled back and as I was putting my dog in the back seat of my car I played with her dog through the back window of her car so she cracked her passenger seat window (great sign) which lead me to talk to her. I started the conversation about my dog joining her for a walk and went from there. I told her i would like to stay in touch after our brief interesting conversation that showed signs of attraction to one another. She said she would call me to save my number so she supposedly did right there when i was present but i did not receive anything, but yet it was great when she called the same night to make sure i got her number. So the plan from that moment is not to go all in with her but to follow some rules so I text her after three days later: It was nice to meet you the other day at the park. we should hangout sometime soon and this is what she responded: yeah that sounds like a plan let me know when works for you. so i said: How does saturday evening sound like? and she replied: That works for me early evening? I said: I d prefer anytime after 7. However, since then she did not reply so I gave her a call the next evening and she picked up while she was at the gym, and said she will call me in 20 mins which she did call back, but i was at my nephews bday and i told her i would call her back because it was too loud so i did call her back, but i could not call until 2 hours later because that was when the party was over, and she did not pick up. however i text her this morning: i got caught up with all the kids at the birthday party last night, and dont know if you got my call later on or if you went to sleep early. Give me a call whenever you can :) but its been almost 4 hours since i havent heard back from her. I Feel everything is all up in the air since we were suppose to go out this evening? I feel i was very cool with her and relaxed on my side and if she was not the one to call first i would probably not be as interested, and i think i showed her i m not a sucker for love which i actually been today. lol. can someone please help???
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reader, cupidhelppp +, writes (17 November 2013):
cupidhelppp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Maureen1979 I agree I made sure I did not come off as a creepy person, which is why I was hesitant to talk to her at the first place at the dog park. I also agree that it is important to show you have a life of your own. However, we did go on a date last night and it turned out great. She had tickets for a show and dinner, which I thought was very nice. I should probably start giving in a little bit more now to make communication easier.
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reader, cupidhelppp +, writes (17 November 2013):
cupidhelppp is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAuntyEm Thank you for your response. I should have explained myself better when I said I would have not been interested if she did not call first. I meant to say I would have assumed she is not interested and I would not worry about it, but the signs shows that she likes me so it was confusing to know she did not text me back to confirm on the date. However, we did go out on a date last night with another couple and it turned out great. She was very nice and had invited me to a show and a dinner. I guess she wanted to show me that she is not all over me by delaying responding to my texts, but my inner instincts knew it was going to work. I guess I need to be more patient for answers in the dating game.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (17 November 2013):
 'I feel i was very cool with her and relaxed on my side and if she was not the one to call first i would probably not be as interested'
I am struggling with this statement...do you even like this woman?
You are over managing the first date, second guessing her actions, paying way too much attention to timing...
You showed her you are not a sucker for love???
You left her hanging 3 days before contacting her and 2 hours to call her back at a party??? Could you not have gone outside or into a different room?
The biggest impact a person can have on another is in the first few days...it's called first impressions.
I think her first impression of you is that you are a bit flaky and unsure about her and now she's probably wondering if it's worth calling you!
If she does call you and you meet again, try to drop the barriers a little and allow her to get to know you at least. If you are interested in her then call her...don't make her wait around because thats just a shit thing to do.
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